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phonecrzy
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ok this is obviously bullying but somehow i don't think it is. I am trying to stay as anon as i can when posting this, but these people are too dumb to be on this forum so I'm not that worried about that.
so yes I'm 13 as many people know, and at school i have plenty of friends in my form class, but some are good friends that don't mean to say rude things but do, and some are not my friends and are in maths or arts classes and say rude things to me but when the discussion is otherwise they talk nicely to me.
So in citizenship this one girl calls me gay and similar stuff, simply because most of the people in my citizenship class are chavs and we watch stuff like worlds strictest parents in citizenship and stuff and some boys in the clips have long hair similar to mine and have the same dress scene, but are gay. So she calls me gay because i am similar to that person and others in other clips and its annoying, though i get upset she is a nice girl and shes always nice to me, just because i hate football and like twilight and cats she calls me gay all the time for that, is that bullying? i explain these things to her that its just how i dress and look and i hate football and she should stop being sexist by saying all boys who are not gay like football, then she just screams emo and says your a emo, and im NOT! so is this bullying and how do i show her that im not emo or gay, thats just how i dress.
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phonecrzy
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Now i move on to this girl in my maths & arts classes this im sure is bullying. though my friends are in my maths class and most of the time they stick up for me when she insults me so yeah.
I have a bat keyring on my school bag, she calls me childish.
I have long hair and i straighten it, she calls me gay and sometimes emo.
I talk more in art and design, shes say i only talk in art but other than that i sit and weap and/or be dumb and stupid.
and the list goes on again is this bullying
its not so worried as its not gone to cyber bullying and those two girls are only the ones who say this stuff to me. how do i stop them and is it bullying
although i am very young and it is not really the right forum, i hope i get valid answers.
thanks for you help
-Ketan
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phonecrzy
Joined: Jul 19, 2008
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...and she says i wnt to be justin biber even though my hairstyle looks nothing like his  come on he looks like he got out of bed and he still is a 3yr old (inside and out) 
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hihihans
Joined: Mar 15, 2009
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From: Netherlands
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Hej, you want my opinion? She fancy's you 
Be true to yourself no matter what people say. I also hate soccer and carraces, boring! I'm not gay but what he I was? I wouldn't mind.
Live your life the way you think is good. It is.
Cya 
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goldenface
Joined: Dec 17, 2003
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From: Liverpool City Centre
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Ha ha. Depends on how much it really bothers you.
Some people can only make themselves feel better by putting others down so ignore them.
What do they look like Anyway, are they proper dogs? Bet they're not perfect.
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phonecrzy
Joined: Jul 19, 2008
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its just slightly annoying, when she says these things, i just turn my head the other way and ignore her, so really the best advice is to do what im doing now, ignoring her. so really i should just ignore these people, im really just happy that they barely say these things anymore because they really have just given up, because i dont react back.
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hihihans
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If you ignore them, they have no fun in doing it. Another way is to give them what they want, they call you gay, act gay. They call you a winer, start to cry. After your act laugh in their faces. But. . You'll have to be strong for this, and you'll need good friends to back you up.
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badassmam
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You seem very mature so knock them dead by being smart. Ignore them and if others support you for being nice or doing well in school, it will hurt them. When I was at school I would fight and get into trouble but then I focussed on study and nobody could compete. By the time you get to your GCSE's, you'll see less of the ignorant ones because you'll be mixing with the top students. Teachers will support you more if they think you will be a success, you don't need praise from these punks but others will notice your hard work. |
Bonovox
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If you ignore them don't feed the fire then they will eventually get bored cos no reaction means they don't get what they want. Also people like that if you get them on their own they normally shit themselves
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dizzybee
Joined: Apr 13, 2009
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I would suggest either ignoring them or agreeing with them. Both will give them much less satifaction than '..no I'm not!'.
At the end of day, you know you aren't gay, emo and all that. You don't need someone to tell you that you are/aren't.
I'm guessing your in year 9? Well, just 2 years and you're out of there. Whether you or they stay there to do sixth form or you or they go to college is not decided yet. Just keep thinking about that.
I hated my secondary school and got bullyed. I was sad to leave as I had some good friends. I had to move schools to do sixth form as my old one didn't have one and had my last day on Thursday 27th May. Now there are some tw*ts in my year, both from my old school and new but I don't care. I've now learned that is doesn't matter what they think. I have made some great friends and was very sad about leaving. My friends are friends with me for who I am and enjoy my company. I just ignore the tw*ts, although they still get on my t*ts.
The tw*ts actually don't bother me at all. Me and my friends all went to the common room after the leavers assembily (where the tw*ts hang out) and the confused look on their faces was priceless. Shortly afterwards they left. Surprisingly I did actually get a bit of bother from someone (know them from my secondary school, they are upthemselves and far to over confident). He said hi to me (I was in the pub at this point, he was on the other side) and then I received a text about me being a sexy beast. I simply replied 'hillarious' and then ignored the next one about some girl wanting me for dessert. Had I of replyed to it they would have carried on. I will admitt to you I was pretty pissed off about it and it put me in a bad mood.
Now I've left I won't have to put up with them anymore. Although I'm very sad about leaving as I've made some great friends and I'm now much happier as a person since stating 6th form. When I started it, it look me a few weeks to make new friends, and I've kept making friends since. Now I would never consider myself popular, certainly not a member of the popular/it people crowd, but I do have a lot of friends
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phonecrzy
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On 2010-05-31 13:42:50, dizzybee wrote:
I would suggest either ignoring them or agreeing with them. Both will give them much less satifaction than '..no I'm not!'.
At the end of day, you know you aren't gay, emo and all that. You don't need someone to tell you that you are/aren't.
I'm guessing your in year 9? Well, just 2 years and you're out of there. Whether you or they stay there to do sixth form or you or they go to college is not decided yet. Just keep thinking about that.
I hated my secondary school and got bullyed. I was sad to leave as I had some good friends. I had to move schools to do sixth form as my old one didn't have one and had my last day on Thursday 27th May. Now there are some tw*ts in my year, both from my old school and new but I don't care. I've now learned that is doesn't matter what they think. I have made some great friends and was very sad about leaving. My friends are friends with me for who I am and enjoy my company. I just ignore the tw*ts, although they still get on my t*ts.
The tw*ts actually don't bother me at all. Me and my friends all went to the common room after the leavers assembily (where the tw*ts hang out) and the confused look on their faces was priceless. Shortly afterwards they left. Surprisingly I did actually get a bit of bother from someone (know them from my secondary school, they are upthemselves and far to over confident). He said hi to me (I was in the pub at this point, he was on the other side) and then I received a text about me being a sexy beast. I simply replied 'hillarious' and then ignored the next one about some girl wanting me for dessert. Had I of replyed to it they would have carried on. I will admitt to you I was pretty pissed off about it and it put me in a bad mood.
Now I've left I won't have to put up with them anymore. Although I'm very sad about leaving as I've made some great friends and I'm now much happier as a person since stating 6th form. When I started it, it look me a few weeks to make new friends, and I've kept making friends since. Now I would never consider myself popular, certainly not a member of the popular/it people crowd, but I do have a lot of friends
Hope this helps Any questions please feel free to PM me
Yes i am in yr9. and i REALLY cant wait in 2yrs, though its a long time when u think about it, it defo will be better since people are more mature and there will be more people who have the same taste as me there which is great. its never been serious i never get cyber bullying from them. and i am a member of "the popular/it crowd" and the people who actually bully me, are the people who have no friends, except the first girl i mentioned she also is, but in a different one compared to me "more higher" lets say. i have plenty of friends and its very rarely they say it anymore so, great! because i keep ignoring all of them it gets on my nerves but in the end it gets rarer and rarer and hopefully it will stop completly if i keep ignoring them, and stop doing the silly mistake that i did when i started yr7, instead of ignoring it, i talked back. but ignoring them really helped. I still would never leave, as there my best of friends and i would never leave them, all these ppl who are will end up in a shit 6th form because there dumber than jessica simpson  and me and my friends will end up in a great 6th form hopefully as were not a bunch of idiots who have no knowledge so try to look like they do by bullying when, come on its obvious everyone can just say your stupid to them, there all talk i can say anything to them and they will just say words but ignoring is better.
thanks for the help guys
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>500
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yeah as others said just ignore them...
im one of those people who are fairly stress free. How? I have the 'I dont give a rats' attitude... Unless its a matter of importance, something worth while etc etc, I ignore it. I say, 'yeah ok, whatever' (not literally)
if some one talks bout me behind my back. Well, good luck to them. It doesn't make me feel like shi*. Most times its untrue. They aren't benefiting from it at all. And if people are saying things like this about me any way, its obviously coming from people I dont care about. So, things like this dont affect me...
g'luck....
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Bonovox
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Well said the right attitude
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phonecrzy
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thanks for the help guys
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