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Same girl 5 months on. Need help |
brownie1989
Joined: Feb 23, 2005
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From: Near Stoke City FC!!!! WOOOOOO
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This girl i really have the hots for and she knows it has told me we would never be more than friends. Today i find out she may like this other guy and he may like her. Truth is i really f**ked up in trying to get this girl to go out with me. I even called her a lesbian twice and tried to stop her liking this other guy. Sometimes we are like good friends. Some days and others we arn't. She does tend to speak to me a bit though although not as much as i would like. I vomited last night when i saw she liked another man and did not get 1 second of sleep. Truth is i think about this girl 24/7 no joke honestly 24/7. I dont have much confidence to ask out other girls since im 20 and have never come close to a girl/ getting a girl friend. My confidence is shot and i don't think i would be able to try get another girl anytime soon. I have never had a gf ever |
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QVGA
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You called her a lesbian. And she said she doesn't want to be any more than friends. I would say those are pretty clear signs.
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brownie1989
Joined: Feb 23, 2005
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From: Near Stoke City FC!!!! WOOOOOO
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I wish i could start over again with her because she is the girl of my dreams. I don't fall for many girls and have only really had 2 big crushes in my life. Both have failed and my confidence is low. She was my best chance of getting a gf and i blew it. Doubt i will ever meet another girl like that again. She is so ace. I feel really bad that i messed up with her. Tbh i don't really spend much time around girls and don't really know how to approach a girl. Say i have never had 2 chance with a single girl. None like me at all and my mates dig into me about it. Please can you give me advice. Im just worried i will lose this girls friendship if she gets a bf. I really enjoy being around her and she is a very kind person and sticks up for me. I dont know whether to talk to her on facebook over the holiday. Cuz i did chat on monday last week but the internet went dodgey so i had to go. Aint spoke to her since and dont know whether to cuz she said she dont really speak to uni mates at home. Two main goals me this chat is how to get her to be my friend, when i still show signs of fancying her and if she gets a bf and how can i get a gf. Since i have never had 2 chance with a girl in 20 years. Not even held hands with a girl. Sounds stupid but i feel like hell and felt sick over her last night. |
Boysie
Joined: Jan 17, 2008
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From: Southampton, England
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Man you got it bad! You are whats technically called 'in love'  All i can say mate is be cool and be yourself. You might think this is the only time you'll get a girl, but believe me, there will be plenty more opportunities. Im 37, yes thats 37yrs old, married with 2 great kids and I remember been in the very same place you are now and thinking you are gonna die because your heart literatly hurts. Good luck dude and be cool, she deserves YOU and not the other way around. 
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fatreg
Joined: Jul 26, 2003
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5 months? it's been 6 years for me, I still maintain one day but we shall see... just keep in there matey, play it cool, and one day something will happen, might not be what you want, but if it's not, it evidently wasn't meant to be...
chin up and stay strong, after all, it's only a girl!!
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Soul.Survivor™
Joined: Nov 27, 2008
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Sorry to sound Harsh but your mates dig into you cause your not able to get girls and are taking the piss because your in love? I'm sorry but you need to find some better mates who'd know your down and take you out to meet different girls.
Secondly, Chin up, Just because you're not very confident around girls and never had a GF, doesnt mean it'll always be like that! You have to remember that there are others out there just like you and that includes girls aswell.
Chin up, Don't let it get to you, If you lost out on one, There are millions more out there! As everyone says...Plenty more fish in the sea.
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brownie1989
Joined: Feb 23, 2005
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From: Near Stoke City FC!!!! WOOOOOO
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Thanks for all your comments i appreciate them. I guess i just gotta take things slow with her and just be like a friend with her for a while. I have fallen for her because she is a very kind person and looks beautiful. I think she is trying her best to be mates with me i guess. I guess i just gotta chill out and either she will come to me or another girl will see im chilled and fall for me. Easier said than done but i guess i gotta give her space and not try to force a relationship. |
badassmam
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Talk to her about other girls to see her reaction, good for you if she becomes jelous. You should also make yourself seem hard to get i.e. you have the scooby snacks so let the b*tches come to you. Be confident and talk to her as if she isn't too special, make her want your attention so don't give her the feeling that you are desperate for anything. Trust me, the 'Fonz' method is sure for success. |
Ridahz
Joined: Oct 22, 2004
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On 2009-04-14 01:17:49, badassmam wrote:
Talk to her about other girls to see her reaction, good for you if she becomes jelous. You should also make yourself seem hard to get i.e. you have the scooby snacks so let the b*tches come to you. Be confident and talk to her as if she isn't too special, make her want your attention so don't give her the feeling that you are desperate for anything. Trust me, the 'Fonz' method is sure for success.
This man speaks sense!! Women love to be the centre of attention and giving them what they want will keep them doing the same. Sod looking at the same girl. The amount of times i was with my ex and staring at other girls was unreal, all part of being a male. You seem to have it bad for this girl but trust me she wont be your 1st and defo not the last (well thats unless you start looking fast) your 20 years old matey, this is the right time to be doing the wham bam thank ya mam saga.
Make the most of it before its too late, all it takes is 1 look and to get a smile in return and thats it HAPPY DAYS. But women NEVER make the 1st move. Its down to us and i agree treat them mean, keep them keen does work! If this girl doesnt get jealous when you talk about another girl then she isnt interested and you should back away on to someone else. 5 months is along time. And after 2 years i still love my ex even though i feel asif i can't be with her dispite having a 2yr old daughter together. And im not even 20 yet!! 
Sorry if this post sounds harsh as its not meant to be
All the best and please let us know your outcome
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Muhammad-Oli
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On 2009-04-14 01:17:49, badassmam wrote:
Talk to her about other girls to see her reaction, good for you if she becomes jelous. You should also make yourself seem hard to get i.e. you have the scooby snacks so let the b*tches come to you. Be confident and talk to her as if she isn't too special, make her want your attention so don't give her the feeling that you are desperate for anything. Trust me, the 'Fonz' method is sure for success.
Badassmam is right. When my girlfriend and I broke up after about 1 year, I was feeling the same as you. Almost vomiting and feeling sick and sad 24/7. But I was told by my parents not to show her how I'm feeling. Doing things like small changes in your appearance, for example a haircut or buying new clothes shows that you're somewhat moving on (even if you're not on the inside) and can make a girl extremely jealous.
It took me two days to get her back, and we've now been together coming up to 4 years. Don't be silly about the jealousy thing, but just show her that she isn't the only girl. That way, if she is interested in a relationship with you, she'll come running.
If everything doesn't work out, don't worry. You still have time on your side! Get out there and socialise with your friends. I'm sure you hang round with other girls and once you take your own attention off this girl you're talking about, you'll probably notice there are so many more options for you.
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hf1344
Joined: Jun 04, 2008
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From: Buenos Aires, Argentina
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I wish you very good luck, not that im very success with girls but anyways.
Good advices around here i think |
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