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QVGA
Joined: May 23, 2006
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I'm 21, and I just lost my best friend of 8 years because of something I did. I hurt him emotionally and i betrayed his trust and i got what i completely deserved, except that i'm still living.
we talked on the phone everyday for 2+ hours for the last 8 years. we shared everything, every secret, every inch of our lives.
what i do? i betray him. he will not even look at my face anymore. i just dont know what to do, i didnt see this coming at all. i cant cry because the emotion is just so overwhelming that my body cant decide what to do. i just want an undo button on my life or i just want an 'end' button on my life.
i cant mention what i did because of utter shame.
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gola
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I'm sorry to hear that QVGA, best thing to do is to never give up on him. Just keep on trying and show him your deepest sincerity, even if it takes for ever. Hopefully he'll eventually come around... Goodluck 
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julias
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The best thing you can do right now is to leave him alone for a while,let the dust settle so to speak time is a great healer hopefully he will miss you just as much as you do him but you will need to prove yourself and apologize and beg for his forgiveness.
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pmerryman
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Suicide!! Dont be stupid, things are never that bad.
Like suggested, give him a little time, and then try to sort things out with him again.
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jj03
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hey qvga. Relax m8. Give him time pal. Mistakes are made, and sometimes relationships are strained...you two will be fine. An 8 year close friendship obviously a strong one.  ) |
ceaser2008
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Qvga, who are you? Male or female? What did you do with him? If you dont want to reveal, pm me.
Yeah, like other guys said about giving time and settleing things on its own, i would say, ok but dont give more time so that things get settle down without you. Then it would be so hard for both of you to return. I have lost one friend in that. I miss her today also.
Dont act stupid. KHUDKHUSI KARNEWALE KO TO KHUDA BHI MAAF NAHI KARTA- Even god doesnot forgive who commits suicide. Be brave. This is not the end of life. You need to get through many experiences of life.
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Suicide is weak, most people are dicks, deal with it m8.
Look after number 1 is what I say.
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p900 lover
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Dude don't stress, as long as you have learnt from the experience your a better person, and all can hope is your friend understands that everyone makes mistakes |
aquared29
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killing urself makes another problem to ur friend and also to ur family be brave, its a challenge between u and ur friend to test ur sincerity, easy pal,try to look someone to talk for to lessen that heartache, and speak it out
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whizkidd
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I recently broke up with my best friend and my girl who I have loved for 14 years and at times like these suicidal thoughts do come to your mind. It did come to me as well albeit for a split second.
But then life is much much more than this. Its very simple to take a decision like this and end it. We should value the preciousness of life.
Just be truthful and sincere and apologize. If you did wrong, accept it. I find no shame in doing that. Although accepting and reconciliation is entirely dependent on the other person. If he/she has been hurt really badly, it might take time-- a long time. Or it might never happen at all. But we got to live with it. No two ways anbout it. Life is tough.
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QVGA
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I have sent him an apology letter. I do not expect anything in return, i do not expect to be forgiven, but it was something i knew i must do even though i know even the thought of me would disgust him.
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Bonovox
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Sorry to hear that. I did a similar thing last year to my best friend of 6 years. We did what you did talk on the phone daily tell each other everything. We trusted each other but i accused her of something i realised she never did in the end. We never spoke for couple of months i just had to let the dust settle cos for a while she was resolute. But when her birthday came around i sent her a card with the word sorry inside just a simple sorry and she called me. All forgotten. Im not saying take few months just give it a week let things settle maybe write him a letter explain everything properly. He would think more of you if you took the time out to write him a letter saying sorry cos it will show him you still value your friendship. Dont pressure him that makes things worse. If after all these years if he still values your friendship on one mistake he will come round. Time is a healer suicide is not the answer. Just think of the people in your life left behind who do care for you they will be upset. We all make mistakes the best of us. Its humanity. Good luck.
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jj03
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^^ wise words indeed. |
scotsboyuk
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Steady on old boy, things are never that bad no matter what you may think at the time. You are a living breathing human being and your life touches more than you can possibly know. You affect those around you and even though you may not always realise it there are people who love you and who think about you.
We are all imperfect, we all make mistakes, and we will all hurt those we love at some point. That is human.
It sounds as if you and your friend were very close, there is nothing that can break that bond. Things may be difficult just now, but time will heal the rift. It may not be quick, but it will happen. Until then you will have to be strong, you will have to keep your chin up, and bear that which is unbearable.
All you can do at the moment is what you have always done, be his friend. No matter if he rejects you, you must continue to be his friend. You must continue to offer him kind words even when he screams at you. You must be willing to drop everything for him even if he does not want your help. You must be there for him even when he orders you to leave. No matter what you must continue to be his friend.
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brownlad007
Joined: Jul 22, 2005
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This has got to be the worst thread ive ever seen. What did you do so bad? Told him you fancied him? |
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Posted: 2009-04-10 08:37
All we need now is a little patience 
