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How do i get my best friend back |
Bonovox
Joined: Apr 13, 2008
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Please help folks. I have been best friends with a woman for 4 years now. We used to talk on the phone for hours and got on so well. Then i fell for her and told her i was in love with her. Also on top of that i accused her of being with someone else and choosing them over me when it was not true. I admitted i was wrong and said sorry. But i hate the words sorry it sounds so weak and pathetic. She was resolute and did not wish to speak to me. But i miss her and want to get her back. Help guys or girls whats the best way to say sorry to a woman without sounding pathetic. She has such a good heart and i hate myself for hurting her cos she trusted me 100% but my feelings for her came out all wrong. |
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tranced
Joined: Jan 19, 2006
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From: Santo Domingo, wonDeRland
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Do you prefer to let her go than telling her that you're sorry? Saying a word wont kill you. Just tell her how you feel and wait till she cools down.
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>500
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best thing to do imo is to give her a little space.
wait a couple days before you try sort it out.
then just be entirely honest with her.
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brownie1989
Joined: Feb 23, 2005
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From: Near Stoke City FC!!!! WOOOOOO
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Ive fallen out with my best mates and known enemies make friends. All you have to do is leave it a few days/weeks and then just change topic like say do u want have coffee or an activity u used to do before you fell out. If ur mates they will come back:d |
brownie1989
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Man if you were that close and had 100% trust etc. She will still be your mate. Just go for a night out with her in 2 week and forget bout it
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Bonovox
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Cheers that helps. Im not used to hurting people its not what i normally do. |
Bonovox
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I remembered its her birthday tomorrow so i sent her a card with the short word of sorry in there. Think she will be pleased i remembered her birthday at least. |
bavlondon2
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If your too proud to say sorry to her then you probably dont deserve a second chance with her.
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Krubach
Joined: Dec 05, 2002
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From: Sunny Portugal! :)
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Saying "i'm sorry" is not pathetic in any way.
It just shows how mature you are, and that you are able to assume your errors.
If she doesn't know you're sorry, why should she forgive you?
Plus, doing this and that without using the words "I'm sorry" will just get her thinking, "He trying to pick up from where we were, but he is not sorry for what he has done."
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Bonovox
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Yeah thanks im with you there i get what your saying. I have said it in the card and kept it brief. I know it means alot and i said it but you know what i mean if you keep saying sorry it sounds irritating. But anyway thanks i will keep you posted if she calls me. Im thinking the card would do the trial cos its remembering her birthday and saying sorry. Its been a month we have not spoken another friend of mine said give it a while. So i gave her space but dont wanna leave it forever. |
max_wedge
Joined: Aug 29, 2004
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Sorry is important, but I think she might be more upset that you tried to control who she goes out with than the fact you had feelings for her. In her mind, if she see's you as a good friend, she would be very offended that you got angry at her for going out with someone else - it's her choice and a friend should support her choices. Even though she didn't actually go with someone else, she will feel that you have no right to complain even if she does.
I think this might be why she is so upset, not because you have feelings for her.
If you send her a letter saying you realise how pathetic it was to try and tell her who she should see, and how sorry you are and how much you miss her companionship just as a friend, she may start to feel she can trust you again.
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Bonovox
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The good news is the birthday card with the word sorry in worked. She called me this morning. We spoke nothing about what happened and she seemed really happy. I just gotta gain her full trust again. We were almost talking as if nothing happened. But she knows how sorry i am and there is no point in going on about it cos it just causes tension or arguments. I just wanna move on. Im pleased. Thanks guys. |
totalgsm
Joined: Jan 12, 2007
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Very nice to hear 
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pmerryman
Joined: Jun 02, 2004
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From: Oldham,Uk
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Esato saves the day.
Glad to hear all is ok.
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max_wedge
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On 2008-09-27 13:35:00, Bonovox wrote:
The good news is the birthday card with the word sorry in worked. She called me this morning. We spoke nothing about what happened and she seemed really happy. I just gotta gain her full trust again. We were almost talking as if nothing happened. But she knows how sorry i am and there is no point in going on about it cos it just causes tension or arguments. I just wanna move on. Im pleased. Thanks guys.
Great News! Since she responded so well to the card, I think you are right, it's not worth going on about it any more.
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Posted: 2008-09-26 03:06
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