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Adz21
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A pair of twins who were adopted by separate families as babies got married without knowing they were brother and sister, a peer told the House of Lords.
A court annulled the British couple's union after they discovered their true relationship, Lord Alton said.
The peer - who heard of the case from a judge who was involved - said the twins felt an "inevitable attraction".
He said the case showed how important it was for children to be able to find out about their biological parents.
Details of the identities of the twins involved have been kept secret, but Lord Alton said the pair did not realise they were related until after their marriage.
'Truth will out'
The crossbench peer, a former Liberal Democrat MP, raised the couple's case during a House of Lords debate on the Human Fertility and Embryology Bill in December.
"They were never told that they were twins," he told the Lords.
"They met later in life and felt an inevitable attraction, and the judge had to deal with the consequences of the marriage that they entered into and all the issues of their separation."
He told the BBC News website that their story raises the wider issue of the importance of strengthening the rights of children to know the identities of their biological parents.
We are naturally drawn to people who are quite similar to ourselves
Pam Hodgkins
Adults Affected by Adoption
"If you start trying to conceal someone's identity, sooner or later the truth will out," he said.
"And if you don't know you are biologically related to someone, you may become attracted to them and tragedies like this may occur."
Pam Hodgkins, chief executive officer of the charity Adults Affected by Adoption (NORCAP) said there had been previous cases of separated siblings being attracted to each other.
"We have a resistance, a very strong incest taboo where we are aware that someone is a biological relative," she said.
"But when we are unaware of that relationship, we are naturally drawn to people who are quite similar to ourselves.
'Incredibly rare'
"And of course there is unlikely to be anyone more similar to any individual than their sibling."
Mo O'Reilly, director of child placement for the British Association for Adoption and Fostering, said the situation was traumatic for the people involved, but incredibly rare.
"Thirty or 40 years ago it would have been more likely that twins be separated and, brought up without knowledge of each other," she said.
Today, however, adopted children grow up with a greater knowledge of their birth families - and organisations try to place brothers and sisters together.
If that were not possible, the siblings would still have some form of contact with each other.
"This sad case illustrates why, over the last 20-30 years, the shift to openness in adoption was so important," Ms O'Reilly added.
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/uk_news/7182817.stm
Thats horrible! they would have felt like soul mates, imagine knowing you had been sleeping with your brother or sister. The feelings for each other wouldn't just go away either, what a sad story!
you suffer to know, try even harder to see
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fatreg
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I still think they should buy a lottery ticket!
the odds of finding your brother/sister and marrying them have got to be minute.....
but yeah sad story indeed....
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se_p800
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But then they are less likely to win the lottery because the odds of them finding each other, getting married and then winning the lottery are a lot smaller than just winning the lottery!
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fatreg
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their marriage was annulled....
the think that gets me.. just because their marriage has been annulled by the high court, doesn't stop their feelings for each other, doesn't stop anything as far as I can tell other than they are no longer Mr and Mrs Smith....
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fatevdestiny
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In a sense it was quite lucky they found out before they had any kids
Is something like this not illegal in America??
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fatreg
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^ I assume you mean legal?
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fatevdestiny
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No I mean illegal
Might only be in some states but I thought incest was illegal over there
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fatreg
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Very probable, but the point is, these 2 were separated at birth and given up for adoption, they would have had no clue that they had a sibling, for them to find that person, find out that have some kind of connection and want to get married is all very amazing to me, and while I believe incest is wrong, I'm from the school of thought, that you can't help ho you fall in love with, and yes falling in love with your sibling is a bit of a problem, they didn't know, I bet their world has just fallen apart, poor poor people.
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fatevdestiny
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Yeh thought it might be
No I agree that its a very sad thing indeed. Cant imagine how there feeling right now. Its not like one has fallen out of love with another. They are both very much in love but because of something they didnt know, they cannot be together
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Nanu
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On 2008-01-12 21:07:44, fatreg wrote:
Very probable, but the point is, these 2 were separated at birth and given up for adoption, they would have had no clue that they had a spouse, for them to find that person, find out that have some kind of connection and want to get married is all very amazing to me, and while I believe incest is wrong, I'm from the school of thought, that you can't help ho you fall in love with, and yes falling in love with your spouse is a bit of a problem, they didn't know, I bet their world has just fallen apart, poor poor people.
Sibling even???
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fatreg
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even Nanu..
thought it was wrong but couldn't think of the word!
WHOOOPS!
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bavlondon2
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I think they would have noticed had they had kids like they would have come out mentally handicapped of something.
Still though, what a wierd story. |
se_p800
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Its quite funny actually. In a wierd way..they probably had sex atleast once..then when they relised they must have bee traumatized..
Also if they were twins, they must have got some sort of clues that they were related, they obviously wouldnt have been identical but still..
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dr_thug
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People are more attracted to the opposite sex who have similar facial bone structure to their own...i read this somewhere.Maybe this was at work!!
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On 2008-01-12 21:28:28, bavlondon2 wrote:
I think they would have noticed had they had kids like they would have come out mentally handicapped of something.
of course not!  it takes a few generations before the "village idiot" arrives 
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