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mariwun
Joined: Jul 02, 2006
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From: london
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@everybody
why is nobody advising coola to marry for love...? |
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coolapostle
Joined: Oct 15, 2004
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From: Abuja, Nigeria
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Yeah... why? 
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pxthomas
Joined: May 14, 2006
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From: DELTA STATE, NIGERIA
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@MARI... i think you got the whole thing wrong. Never you marry for anything except love. Love does not err. Love covereth all. Remember God first loved us
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easydee
Joined: Apr 02, 2006
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From: kd city,Nigeria
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hi y'all. @ ifed- i heard of that celtel voicemailstufflike early this year. i tried it and was billed. the same usual amount. i think the best time to try it is when you dont have any credit on your phone. so as to be on the safe side. also i think celtels voicemail malfunctions at times. here you are complaining of not having a voicemail. when am constantly getting a text msg from celtel telling me that my voicemail has been activated. even when i did not request to be activated. sick huh
@all; my elder sis is having her trad marriage in december. the first to be married in my family and evnthough am an ibo i never knew it costs alot for you to do a trad marriage. i saw the list of things they told the guy to buy. and all i could do was ask God to strengthen him. 
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ambyzown
Joined: May 11, 2005
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From: Lagos-Nigeria
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@Easydee: na wa o, for u to feel sorry for a guy who wants to marry ur sister, I can just begin to imagine the contents of that list.
@Coola: do you still think you are ready? Stay away from Ibo babes 
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pxthomas
Joined: May 14, 2006
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From: DELTA STATE, NIGERIA
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@easydee...I think you can intervene to help that young man.
@Amby...Is it not possible for Opera Software Asa to develop opera mini version that include all the features of the Russian hack?
@ALL...Which of our PNF member travelled to AWKA some months back. coola na you?
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abubakar
Joined: Sep 15, 2005
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@mariwun & pxth: marry for luv alone?? to me that doesnt work. you can luv someone that doesnt luv u back. Coola, marry someone that understands u, is patient with you and vica versa. You will love her for that and vica versa. If its only luv u want to marry for, your road will be long!
@easy: Support the man!! You go marry someone sister o!!!!!!
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pxthomas
Joined: May 14, 2006
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From: DELTA STATE, NIGERIA
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@ABU . . . The institution of marriage is a mystery some people say. You can predict the action of animals but in humans you cannot.
The best i can say is to go with a clean and open heart
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easydee
Joined: Apr 02, 2006
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@pxt and abu- i wish i could, but unfortunately it's the tradition of my people. nothing was inflated. from the no of animals to yams and all other stuffs. the ibo tradition requires you to do that. He's up to the task.
come to think of it- now i know why most ibo men wait till they are really well to do before looking for a wife. You'll hardly see an ibo man getting married without having enough money in his account. thats why some of them get to 35 or 40 to get married(esp those who work day and night to make a living).
The guy marrying my sister is doing three things at a time(mostly it's done one by one or at all at once-depending on ur bank account). in ibo they are called ime ego- bride price, i gbu ewu nna-provision of goats to the brides family and igba nkwu-this is the main traditional marriage. all this three put together costs quite some amount and i''ve not yet gotten to the ghurch wedding. so coola i hope you know all this.
I dont know about other traditions but in my tradition the groom may not be present for the trad marriage if he is faraway and cant make it. like my cousin who got married last month. her groom to be was rounding up his masters overseas and could not make it. so his borther represented him. is this so in other traditions?
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coolapostle
Joined: Oct 15, 2004
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From: Abuja, Nigeria
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On 2006-12-01 07:39:00, pxthomas wrote:
@ALL...Which of our PNF member travelled to AWKA some months back. coola na you?
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Yep. PNF's Most Travelled was in Awka twice this year. April and September I think. U want hotel info...?
And I will be off to my hometown on Tuesday. I have two weeks "Annual Leave" but I was recalled for two days. 
U guys wish me luck... I am hoping to conclude my Toasting of one cute hometown chickito. She is currently #1 on the Top 10 of the coveted "Who Wants to be Mrs. Coola" Game Show. Serious! She lives in my neighbourhood and I have a really good feeling about her right now.
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coolapostle
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From: Abuja, Nigeria
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On 2006-12-01 18:16:03, easydee wrote:
@pxt and abu- i wish i could, but unfortunately it's the tradition of my people. nothing was inflated. from the no of animals to yams and all other stuffs. the ibo tradition requires you to do that.
........... and i''ve not yet gotten to the ghurch wedding. so coola i hope you know all this. .... is this so in other traditions?
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My brother! My trip to Awka was for my neighbours traditional wedding. I fear Igbo marriage o.
May I suggest Plateau babes for y'all bachies... I don't know of any tribe that does a "traditional" wedding in my State. Christianity wiped it all away. There is something called a Sendforth for the woman by her ppl but at no cost to u. And one major difference is that the church wedding happens in YOUR hometown not the womans like in many parts of Southern Naija.
And U know my Plateau babes are nice, loving, good cooks, humble, sexy, cute, easy-on-pocket, religious, etc.
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mariwun
Joined: Jul 02, 2006
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From: london
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isnt being patient and caring part of loving your partner.you cant just marry someone you been on 5 dates with!!!...personally a courting period of at least a year is neccessary so you can know what the person is REALLY like |
pxthomas
Joined: May 14, 2006
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From: DELTA STATE, NIGERIA
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@coola...i don't mean anything bad when i mentioned that awka trip oh. Do you remember my comment then about igbo ladies-NO ROMANCE WITHOUT FINANCE.
Good luck on your toasting.
@easydee...what do you by it's tradition? What are the goats and tubers of yams for? To appease the gods i presume. Why can't we make our lives easy by simple ways.
This is how we waste huge sums of money to bury our departed ones also. THESE ACTIONS ARE RETROGRESSIVE.
@mari... A successful marriage does not depend on the lenght of courtship. A lady can hide her true nature from you for 60yrs and vice versa.
we need the presence of God in our life to make it work.
Oh boy do you see some provocative dressing from our girls these days. One is surely doomed if the spirit of God is not in you. Thank goodness my university days were not like what is obtained now. I wouldn't have been able to graduate
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abubakar
Joined: Sep 15, 2005
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@Mari: Caring etc becomes love but love doesnt become caring etc. Lots of people love the people they abuse. Life is funny. I just beleive if you spend enough time caring for someone reciprocately, love must eventually bloom, even when you dont know it. I dont beleive in knowing a girl without having any caring emotions fully developed and the claiming to be in love. Cos you may be in love but you may not be able to truely care when t counts.
@pxth: I disagree with you!! (Coola, arguement fit start becos of your love!!!!) You need to know the girl for some time. Its not to gauge or to know her thoroughly, it just to see if you are compatible. My wife and I dated for 10 yrs (an olympic record!!!) b4 getting married. She still suprises me today. But i still love her (shocks and all!!!)
@easy: If its just goats, yam, cows etc its no prob as it helps feed visitors. Its stuff like expensive needless stuff thats where i draw the line
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coolapostle
Joined: Oct 15, 2004
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From: Abuja, Nigeria
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On 2006-12-01 21:36:00, pxthomas wrote:
@mari... A successful marriage does not depend on the lenght of courtship. A lady can hide her true nature from you for 60yrs and vice versa.
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This I agree. Look at our Parents.... they didn't doall this rig-ma-roling but they turned out ok. All this know-your-wife-for-2-years wahala is an American Counsellor invetiuon that many ppl think its biblical.
I think i should get a woman who is willing to cope with me wahala and is committed to staying in the relationship with me. These things will take us forward when all the love (or LUST?) has ended...as it surely will. |
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