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Cycovision
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^^^
Make that three!
And well done for accepting that some of this mess is your own fault. Sorry if that sounds condescending because I'm really not being being funny here but as the old saying goes, "It takes two to tango", and accepting your part in it can be a very difficult thing to do.
But it's also the first step to sorting things out. Once everybody has calmed down a bit, you can begin slowly building bridges and use your experience to try to avoid similar situations arising in the future . I know that's probably impossible, but at least you'll be able to see them coming!
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ÈL ® ö B ì Ñ
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The reason is (and Massur knows this lmao) I am moany and argumentative lmao 
But I feel it's deserved, for example I stacked and emptied the dishwasher, so all the stuff was put away and the dishwasher empty....brother and sister bring down empty cups and plates....and put them in in the sink, like they're going to magically get put in to the dishwasher.
Small thing I know, but there's other stuff like, my bro's room is always so messy to can't see any of the floor, it's discusting.
I don't download when other people are on laptops/desktops out of respect, yet my brother streams 2-3 epps of south park at once (lets them buffer)...which slows the whole thing down for everyone and then claims "it isn't downloading"...idiot.
Then there's the, I've had a chocolate bar, so the appropriate place for the wrapper is the living room floor.
2 more serious ones:
We have a 42" samsung Plasma TV right by a big french door....which my mum never locks, and the gate is right next to it, you could be in and out of the house with the TV in under 30seconds, last week I came down, the door was unlocked, the 2 side windows were open and the other back door was open, and the back gate unlocked and the kitchen window wide open...
I "Moan" that the insurance company won't cover us for any loss if anything got stolen because you left doors unlocked and windows open yet she still does it every night.
Second serious one is, human food upsets my dog's stomach, so I've asked people many times not to feed the dog, yet after people have had their tea, I come down and I find 1-2 plates sitting on the floor for the dog to lick, which is just discusting!
Me being petty, or valid points...
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themarques
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Pretty much petty to be honest, as they don't directly interfere with your day to day living.
I am not sure how old you are, but enjoy these glorious days of living with your family because when you have to be dropping £1000 a month on rent its not going to be so sweet.
I just think personally you trying to do to much and expect everyone to be on the same level as you. Just learn to ignore, think about it are you going to be telling your boss you don't like him leaving his or her plate in the sink? I would just ignore it people learn when they cant find dishes to eat the next morning.
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ÈL ® ö B ì Ñ
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Good advise to be honest 
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badassmam
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I had a similar experience at work where I was made an outcast by everyone. If you think that you were right then you should stick to it and try and reach a compromise with your family i.e. my behaviour is because.........you can help if you.........I will change in this way.......... and come to a logical understanding.
I had to leave work because they were all b******s, I was able to move onto much greater things. You and your family need to work it out, without them it will be tough. Even if you have to change a lot for their sake, do it because once you get a decent career and can move out; you will be free to do as you please.
If that doesn't help, go to your place of worship. Pray that God will relax your mind and remove it of stress. You need to be fit mentally and emotionally at this time. |
ÈL ® ö B ì Ñ
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Cheers for that mate, some wise words.
I find jogging actually gets rid of all stress and calms everything down, but been doing it too much recently and my knees hurt so much I can barely walk lol, looking forward to running again.
I hate applying for jobs, I applied 15 places, heard nothing from 10 and got no letters from 5, i been looking for months now.
Just applied to be a postman, not the most fun job in the world but at £7.80 an hour I'm not complaining hehe.
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gregface
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buy some proper running shoes (if you have not already) - this will solve the sore knee problem.  |
ÈL ® ö B ì Ñ
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I set out to buy running shoes and ended up kinda forgetting and just got a pair I liked lmao, it sorted the knee problem for about 2 months but it's started again.
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badassmam
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I've got a good degree from a good uni and I've done over 400 job applications. I graduated last summer and only now I have a temp job which was completely by luck. Take whatever job comes. |
themarques
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On 2008-07-03 15:35:53, badassmam wrote:
Elrobin
I've got a good degree from a good uni and I've done over 400 job applications. I graduated last summer and only now I have a temp job which was completely by luck. Take whatever job comes.
Got to agree with you, when I am hiring for my company I tend to go for experience more so than degree's sad but true.
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ÈL ® ö B ì Ñ
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Yer that's the problem, went for a couple of jobs at currys which I *know* i'd be good at, but in the advert it says "previous sales experience is required"...well how can I get a job when most say previous experience required.
Some say "preferred but not essential" and I think the problem I have there is if someone applies and they have 5yr experience, and I apply and I have no experience, it makes more sense to hire them.
I'm 20 and have never had a job, and I seem to be paying for it now as I can't get one even though I'm trying!
Applied for my local police force as they were recruiting, go into a second stage where they send some forms to me and I fill them in and send back but they said they won't be replying for months as it's a long process.
I'd LOVE to get in to the police force, but my hopes aren't high tbh....can anyone help lol  Put in a good word for me
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themarques
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Well let me give you some advise, I would look for a sales job they tend to take on anyone. If you failing to find full time start with a weekend position and you can show them how good you are, then ask the manager to find you a full time position.
Places that have a high turn over are opticians, Specsavers and never to fussed about your qualifications trust me on that one
Give it a shot you wont be disappointed, make sure you go in dressed decent and brush up on your knowledge of glasses (not rocket science at all)
If you need any tips if you get an interview then PM il give you hand, alternatively your CV also needs to show an interest in the position you applying for.
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ÈL ® ö B ì Ñ
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Thanks for the advice mate appreciate it
I'm off to town in the early am tomorrow so will hand in CV's to gamestation and Game, never tried before as I always think the world and their mother apply there, but hey if I don't try!
So'k I always over dress anyway lol, tend to wear smart dark jeans, black shirt and black jumper just to walk the dog lol. (Couldn't bear to look like on of them chav folk)
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weirdwilli
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On 2008-07-03 20:26:25, ÈL ® ö B ì Ñ wrote:
(Couldn't bear to look like one of them chav folk)
Thats the spirit lad!
BTW good luck with the jobs!
Really hope you sort everything out mate!
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ÈL ® ö B ì Ñ
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Thanks a lot mate appreciate it.
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