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Sammy_boy
Joined: Mar 31, 2004
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From: Staffordshire, United Kingdom
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Yes, being a student psychiatric nurse doesn't exactly earn much!! Having a second part time job makes me sound like I'm 16 - it's perhaps slightly worrying that I'm 26!! 
I should have my P8 back on Wednesday. Hopefully!
"All it takes for evil to flourish is for good men to do nothing" - Edmund Burke
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gelfen
Joined: Nov 22, 2003
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From: Melbourne, Australia
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i carried on my part-time job for the first 18 months of full-time work.
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gelfen
Joined: Nov 22, 2003
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From: Melbourne, Australia
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morning!
it's bloody cold this morning (around 8 degrees), going for a wet top of 14.
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*Jojo*
Joined: Oct 15, 2003
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Gud am @gelfen! It's already 7:10 am/June 16th my place/ Manila ! So how's the wedding preparation going? Did you already filed/apply for a divorce, oooops, I mean marriage contract in your neighboring church ? |
gelfen
Joined: Nov 22, 2003
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From: Melbourne, Australia
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actually the church will be across the other side of the city. we have visited with the vicar twice. nowadays they do "pre-wedding counselling" to help newlyweds deal with unresolved or unforseen issues in an attempt to lower the divorce rate. for us this consisted of us doing a 128 multi-choice question test, all of which presented statements to which you would either "strongly disagree, disagree, undecided, agree, strongly agree". our next meeting in a couple of weeks will be to discuss how well we align or otherwise on the issues raised. the questions relate to spousal roles in the home, discipline, money issues, faith/religion/spirituality, children and other domestic matters.
around 10% of couples don't go ahead as a result of the counselling. however, i don't see it being a problem for us as we had pretty much discussed everything that came up on the test, and what we hadn't we already knew was something we would have to deal with. after 6.5 years i would hope so anyway. 
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Sammy_boy
Joined: Mar 31, 2004
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From: Staffordshire, United Kingdom
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Morning! Kind of... It's a quarter to one in the morning here in Blighty. I always know it's way past my bedtime when you log in! 
Despite it being quite hot the last few days, I have a COLD!  grrrr.
Pre-wedding councilling - that's a new one on me!! I wonder if my and my girfriend.... fiance now, as we're engaged, )must get used to saying that! ) would need any? Again, I think we've talked most things through as well.
"All it takes for evil to flourish is for good men to do nothing" - Edmund Burke
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gelfen
Joined: Nov 22, 2003
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From: Melbourne, Australia
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i've only heard of it in australia, but i'm sure it must be done elsewhere under different names and guises. most of the churches here require it, and most civil celebrants strongly recommend it. i think it's primarily aimed at those who want to get married after only 6-12 months and don't really know each other.
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shithappens
Joined: Sep 17, 2002
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From: Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia
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over here we haf wat they term as pre-marriage counselling....and believe me, it does help the young couple and it sets them thinking on the right path.....however, the experience of the counselor is equally important as well.....both me better half and i went thru it....its tedious but well worth the effort......if a couple can bring themselves to open up and truthfully discuss issues, expectations, problems etc in the presence of another trusted individual (counselor), u'll be surprised at the positive effect is has on the relationship......just my 2 cents....
True Bravery is arriving home late after a boys' nite out, wife waiting with the broom & u ask: "Are u still cleaning or are u flying somewhere" |
gelfen
Joined: Nov 22, 2003
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From: Melbourne, Australia
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i can certainly see the potential benefits, and i think it's a good idea. comparing notes afterwards it seemed we agreed on most things, and what we didn't were issues we have already discussed with each other. however, there were a handful of things we'd never thought about.
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ilia
Joined: Sep 15, 2003
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From: Russia
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hey, this place is really special! truly the one of the most impressive threads over esato.
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gelfen
Joined: Nov 22, 2003
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From: Melbourne, Australia
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for some reason my piss-antenna is raised.......
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shithappens
Joined: Sep 17, 2002
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From: Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia
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True Bravery is arriving home late after a boys' nite out, wife waiting with the broom & u ask: "Are u still cleaning or are u flying somewhere" |
*Jojo*
Joined: Oct 15, 2003
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@gelfen - Good Luck!
@sammy_boy - I guess those only applies to couples who are already getting married . . . are you?
@ilia - Looks like we had a 'new' lady member here! Welcome ! Can you post some pics . .. . Thanks! |
Sammy_boy
Joined: Mar 31, 2004
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From: Staffordshire, United Kingdom
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@jojo: will be getting married in the future, going to sort out a house together first, well, once I've qualified!
"All it takes for evil to flourish is for good men to do nothing" - Edmund Burke
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*Jojo*
Joined: Oct 15, 2003
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@sammy_boy - Well, OK! I guess you are already of age in doing it . . . I mean - getting married! Good Luck as well mate . . . |
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Posted: 2004-06-15 01:20
