Posted by kimcheeboi
I'm planning to move out in 1 year-can anybody offer some useful advice? This is serious-i want nothing to do with my parents after i turn 18. Please help me out!
Posted by BobaFett
Are u ready to manage your life on your own? I did the same once, not so easy as u might imagine it! What will be your first step?
Posted by kimcheeboi
First step? Plan out a budget, get a full time job, save up a couple thousand dollars... Thanks @mod who took out that last crap post by me.
Posted by BobaFett
One more thing, responsibility. U have to face a lot of things, the word mentioned above will have a new meaning in your life. The hard thing isnt to get a job, find a flat, more to keep all these! Same as in a relationship. U can get everybody, but are u able to keep to her and are u able to trust? Thats what counts.
Posted by Ayush
@Kimchee dont think its that easy! Hav u finished ur education? Are u ready for a career? There are a load of stuff! Even i have clashes wid my parents! But there support is essential...
Be strong..get a part time job (u finished skool)? @bob what had u done eh ? 
Posted by kimcheeboi
I'm sorry guys but things at home are really bad. I have to move out, and i'm determined to finish my education without my parents. It'll be extremely difficult but i am sure this is what i'm going to do.
Posted by Ayush
ok so what happened? tell u we can sort it out
Dont worry even situation with me keeps going up and down Which grade u in?
Posted by BobaFett
@ayush went to work to my favourite city, it amazed since my childhood. @kim did u try fix the situation before u made this decision? Its not only a usually teenager fight against the parents, is it?
Posted by Ayush
You mean it is usual
And u dont know how hard it is 2 make money
Posted by kimcheeboi
Ok here's the situation- i have major issues with my mom. Basically we haven't had a constructive chat for about 1 year. Every time i say something she starts yelling. For example i said that despite his profanity eminem's lyrics seems a lot like the antiwar 70s songs. Them for the next hour she yelled at me for being immoral because i enjoy listenin to rap and don't believe in god (HER god) and stuff. That is my daily life.
Posted by Vlammetje
guys... not any of our busines is it?
kim: think long and hard how much money you will need on a monthly basis for housing, food, clothing, transportation and tuition. Leave nothing out. Start noting down NOW how much you spend for all 'daily' stuff such as food and laundry and such.
What kind of job are we talking about?
Are you planning on full time school and part time job, or part time school and full time job?
Try finding roommates (share the rent
)
It won't be easy mate... if you're determined to do it all by yourself.
Posted by kimcheeboi
@everyone thanks for your help, i really appreciate it. I've been adding up my expenses and saving up money, i think i can get a job at a hospital (i have the floor supervisor's recommendation) etc. This is going to be hard.:-l
Posted by BobaFett
@kim try to fix it with her. That must be the first step. If u cannot, at least u can say yourself u gave a chance.
Posted by kimcheeboi
I've been trying for the last 6 months-actually yesterday was 6 months i've been trying to improve the situation. I've really had too much and i'm tired of taking this crap.
Posted by BobaFett
@kim its your life, its your decision. Be wise, think always twice. U know where to find me if it is. Good luck.
Posted by kimcheeboi
Thanks.
Posted by gelfen
@kim: is your family prepared to pay for you to go to college away from home, even if it's only partial payment? if so that might be a (slightly easier) way, but you will still need a job. and you can always elect to stay at college during vacations if you really need to, and even if not you may still be able to cope wtih the brief periods you need to spend at home.
Posted by Ayush
still family support is always needed
otherwise it will be very hard. u gotta start from scratch..ur education will suffer coz of job..or no edu..then bad life with small job 
Posted by kimcheeboi
guys thanks once again for all you help.
it's like this-my parents are conservative (I mean CONSERVATIVE) christian fundamentalist wackos and i gotta get out of that hellhoel. I'm trying to live my life and enjoy it, and then my mom tries to impose a 7 pm curfew on me ?!?!?!?!!?
I usually get home at 11-12~ish on a good day.
They expect me to be perfect and do everything they want me to do, and when i disagree they start yelling up a shitstorm at me. For example, I believe that sex is part of a strong relationship and it can also be just for fun at times, they wont budge on the issue. Just for having the "talk" (and i had to initiate it!) with my parents they got psycho paraniod on me for the next 3 months. i'll admit i have done some crazy shit but its all part of growing up and living life to its fullest.
I've tried to be a 'good son' and i respect their beliefs, but they take no consideration of my core values and expect me to believe the same things they do! What if you were a religious and someone forcefully tried to convert you to another religion, and when you didnt listen tried to take away your property and privileges?
That's why i gotta get out of my house. It's not some petty squabble over some stupid fight like doing the chores, but its because my parents refuse to respect me and my beliefs, even though i do the same for them.
I'm sure my parents see things differently, and my little essay is biased towrds my "side", but this is why i have to get out of the house.
-Bernard Kim
Posted by DingDongDitchMe
Definitely not the best move - Honestly, even if your parents aggravate the hell out of you, as mine did when I was your age... you're better off at least maintaining a decent relationship with them. You may or may not need their help in the future, but you'd be much more secure at least know they are there.
As for preparing... I wish it were that easy. Find a job, save up for a few months. Once you have money to manage, you'll suddenly have bills showing up - this is the way things work. Just wait.
Posted by kimcheeboi
I wish it was that simple :-(
Posted by gelfen
you sure you can't live in at college?
Posted by kimcheeboi
I'm gonna pay for my own education! I don't want to be indebted to my parents like that.
Posted by gelfen
yeah, but there's a nice kind of perversity to them paying for you to stay away.
Posted by kimcheeboi
lol i cant disagree with that.