Posted by shelly58
just want to say goodbye to those of you who i know on here and who have always helpful and kind....thinbk its time i left this site because after this afternoon involving volvoman i dont want to be a member any longer
99% of people on here have been fantastic
Posted by MWEB
Truth be told, most people have raging disagreements with the odd member on here sooner or later, try not to take it to heart, forum life reflects real life to a tee, there are just some people one NEVER will get on with, but that's their problem, not yours, i would reflect upon the situation awhile Shelly.
[ This Message was edited by: MWEB on 2009-03-21 23:07 ]
Posted by volvoman
One argument with me over nothing other than a misunderstanding and you want to leave, a little silly really is it not, you have already blocked my PM's, and this is the last you will hear from me. All I have to say is I am sorry if I upset you, but you have to admit you did get the wrong end of the stick, now why dont you have a little think on this, and if you still want to leave then fine, but is it really worth it over a simple misunderstanding, NO it's not.
Posted by dougproctor
Shelly,
As we discussed today, think about what you are doing and don't waste four years or more of good times! As others say, we all sometimes have a difference of opinion on here but I think it should be forgotten and just get on with what we are good at - trading and talking about phones.
There are times when I have felt like leaving - after the Hangman saga for example - but the majority of people are good and I consider them to be friends. Never met them but still a sort of friend - like yourself.
Reflect and come back again.
Doug
Posted by badassmam
This is a virtual world so rather than leaving, switch off for a while because you'll miss out on the goodness of Esato. I work with some proper ***** but if I let them get to me, i'll miss out on building a great career. I know that I have some good friends there as well and me changing/leaving will only hurt me own interests. You'll lose more than you can gain if you leave.
As a hot blooded male, I tell myself: 'Make history or become history'.
Posted by Bonovox
I love Esato and i only ever had couple of disagreements with one person but we still chat sometimes i got nothing against that person. You can still stay on here you just dont have to chat to the person you dont like if you dont wish too. Dont take it so seriously its just difference of opinion at the end of the day. Esato and the world would be boring if everyone agreed the same things. I think people on this site are good and helpful and i enjoy reading the threads. Chill.
Posted by yea g
Think about it. What if plankgaten left for 2 weeks everytime he got into an argument with someone? he'd be gone 90% of the time (yes, even I have had an argument with him
)
Posted by QVGA
so volvoman doesnt want you here and you're leaving? he must hold immense importance in your heart
Posted by gtr83
@QVGA: Man, that's sarcasm.
To the OP: Why not reconsider? It's not as if the guy really hurt you physically or anything. Probably time will heal the wounds though. You see, for example, I don't hate QVGA although I constantly disagree with his opinions. Almost 100% of the time lol.
Posted by PeterKay
Please don't leave Shell
One of the best members that i have dealt with here
It's not too late to reconsider, Esato will miss you.
Posted by shelly58
Hi Thanks to those of you for your support, never realised how much i would miss esato and only been gone 2 days, so ive come back and just want to carry on as before...means this matter is now closed
shelly
p.s think by looks of my freebie thread ive got some names to put in those cones!
Posted by goldenface
Yaaay!
Posted by Marly
Good decision !
When you like a place and most people there, it would be a shame to leave this place, just for a disagreement with only one person.
Posted by PeterKay
well done shell
Posted by Sammy_boy
Glad you decided to stay, don't let one argument taint your experience of a forum. I've had the odd run in with people but thankfully rare, it's not nice at all, glad you haven't let that bad experience drive you away
Posted by shelly58
hey who changed the title?
Posted by volvoman
On 2009-03-22 08:17:37, QVGA wrote:
so volvoman doesnt want you here and you're leaving? he must hold immense importance in your heart
And when was it decided that I did not want her here, never said that at all in any of the posts on here or in private, maybe a few people on here should get facts correct before taking one side or another. I never once said anything about her leaving or not wanted on here, it was initially a disagreement between us which due to her blocking my PM's before I could send her a reply, which to me was a little childish. This all started as a simple misunderstanding, and has led to me be made out to be some kind of bad guy, when no one has even been given the full reason for the disagreement. So it seems on here that if you are well known and fall out with a lesser known member, who happens to of been here a long time but maybe not as active as others, then the lesser known member is all of a sudden the one in the wrong no matter what. So after her comment of me being the bullyboy, she gets her mates together on here and bully's off the one who did not cause this in the first place, well done everyone, seems a bit unfair but at least I know where I stand now. This could have been sorted out so much more easily and as I publicly apologized to her, yet not even a hint of apology from her this seems very unfair behavour on behalf of the members who continue to make out I am at fault.
Posted by shelly58
I have'nt got any of my mates on here to say anything at all thankyou, i just want to forget and carry on but seems you wont let me!
Ok can one of the mods please remove my membership so i dont or cant come back on here!!
And volvoman I was actually composing a pm (which are'nt blocked) to say lets start again
Ive truely had enough this is the first time ive ever had a problem on here, but its not worth the hassle staying
Posted by volvoman
Whats this for now, I am the one getting nasty PM's not you, I am the one getting made out to be the bad one, I am off now, all of you can continue with this childish I am more badly done to than you routine, it's pathetic, you blocked me from sending you PM's deny it all you want but you did, now you say you haven't so what I am telling lies again, like I am meant to have told you to leave, well I did not never have and this is all over something sooo trivial it's childish. Enjoy the rest of your time on this forum, this a pathetic, all I come on here for is a little info, and see whats new, saw your thread about the P910i, and then all this.
GOODBYE
Posted by goldenface
C'mon you guys, you know you can sort this out once and for all. Is it really worth falling out and leaving for?
Posted by volvoman
YES
Posted by Sammy_boy
Just to clear it up I'm not taking any sides and haven't done, just wanted to say that I've had the odd disagreement on here (as I'm sure many of us have) and it hasn't lead to any bad blood or serious splits. In fact I often end up getting on with that person just fine shortly afterwards.
It sounds like this is a small disagreement that has gotten blown out of proportion, you two need to have a chat (via PM) and straighten it all out. I don't want to see anyone leaving over what sounds like a relatively minor disagreement (Apologies if I'm wrong on this, I'm just going on what's in this thread).
Posted by MWEB
Will she, wont she
Very sensible Sam
Posted by Krubach
This kind of threads are a bit childish if you ask me...
If you're not happy with esato as a community just leave silently.
Do you want our pity? Do you want that we go "Please please don't go!"
Posted by MWEB
No, we dont want her to go!, people such as Shelly make Esato a lot more bearable than it might otherwise be.
Positive assets are worth fighting to retain IMO!!
[ This Message was edited by: MWEB on 2009-03-24 12:23 ]
Posted by shelly58
I dont want you to leave Volvoman and to be honest i thought it was all over with...but your comment about getting mates to support me is totally out of line, if you read what they say they are'nt taking sides in fact they've told me not to be so silly!
I am quite prepared to quit Esato because i myself would rather leave than have someone who's been a member longer than me go
And if you really must know something i actually cried on saturday because of this upset...yeah some of you may think im soft but ive got enough going on in my life as it is, and even small things upset me
so ok i might be pathetic in your eyes volvoman but i never would have dreamt this would get to the stage it has
Please dont leave volvoman i would rather go
Posted by shelly58
On 2009-03-24 13:07:40, Krubach wrote:
This kind of threads are a bit childish if you ask me...
If you're not happy with esato as a community just leave silently.
Do you want our pity? Do you want that we go "Please please don't go!"
if you think its childish they dont read it!
oh and i dont ask that anyone say's anything to ask me to stay
Posted by RyaN
On 2009-03-24 13:47:12, shelly58 wrote:
... but ive got enough going on in my life as it is, and even small things upset me
You've hit the nail on the head there. There are much more important things for you to be concerned about, perhaps, as you say, this is why this thing just kind of 'pushed you over the edge' so to speak. Why not just take a couple more days just to chill out and reflect and then come back wiser and better? To me it seems a bit of a rash judgement for something to happen and then immediately react and then say 'thats it'. It's clear that after you had a couple of days to reflect you came back here and said that you were happy to stay, regardless of what the particular member said to you. So just carry on in the same vain - as once you have gotten over it, you've gotten over it!
@volvoman, over 8 years and 1 incident also makes you want to leave Esato. wtf?
You're both trusted traders and shouldnt be fighting like cats!!
Posted by Marly
On 2009-03-24 02:25:15, Marly wrote:
When you like a place and most people there, it would be a shame to leave this place, just for a disagreement with only one person.
I'll simply quote myself
.
And this is for BOTH shelly58 AND volvoman.
[ This Message was edited by: Marly on 2009-03-24 16:58 ]
Posted by goldenface
Marly has spoken. Well said Marly!
Posted by dougproctor
When my son died in Sept 2007 aged 19, I came on here the same night and told you all bacause some of my dealings involved him. I was inundated with messages of support from lots of people, including the two involved with this. I consider I told my friends here even though I do not know you in real life. Don't let little thingss like this get in the way of what we are good at - trading phones and other things. Live for today I believe me you never know what is just around the corner
Shake hands and let's get on with life.
Doug
Posted by _!GameKing!_
I agree with Doug, guys chill out
i say, that small disagreemants happen but they tend to clear up! so please just stop, what are you guys disagreeing about anyways is it really worth this? i cant be bothered reading all the arguments posted by the both of you its gone on long enough, just forget about it and move on try to be nice not just argue about something you dont want to agree on WE'RE ALL ONE BIG HAPPY FAMILY [ This Message was edited by: _!GameKing!_ on 2009-03-24 17:50 ]
Posted by MWEB
Quite right Doug and Marly, well said the pair of you
Posted by _!GameKing!_
Hope you guys clear this up
[ This Message was edited by: _!GameKing!_ on 2009-03-24 17:54 ]
Posted by shelly58
Yes you're right in every word you say Doug nobody knows whats waiting round the corner ive found that out myself these last few months and if im honest im feeling rather fragile myself just lately...to watch your husband go from someone who was fit and healthy to someone that has to have a breathing machine at night and cant even do simple tasks like he use too....so Doug yes you are right
Im sorry volvoman (and yes im typing this crying like some weak softie) but i dont want you to leave!
Posted by shelly58
now ive laid myself open which is wrong...i dont do sharing my problems its wrong, im normally stronger than this and keep things to myself
Im going as now i look so weak in front of everyone
Posted by goldenface
On 2009-03-24 18:58:41, shelly58 wrote:
Im going as now i look so weak in front of everyone
There are a lot of people who understand what you might be going through and you're definitely not alone in going through difficult times.
We're only human, we're affected by these things. I only hope you're receiving the support you deserve. Chin up eh?
[ This Message was edited by: goldenface on 2009-03-24 18:27 ]
Posted by _!GameKing!_
i can see you're going through something tough and i hope things get better for you sooon! plz dont leavee...
[ This Message was edited by: _!GameKing!_ on 2009-03-25 15:34 ]
Posted by blerk
In the best of families and friend circles, people fall out, sometimes about very small things, and things get really nasty. But in the end things can always be mended. Whatever the cause of this was it should in no way have such dramatic consequences, it is after all just a forum about phones where we talk, buy/sell and try to have a good time. Misunderstandings are normal and as they say; shit happens. But it is at the end of the day just a forum, taking things too personally is not only unhealthy it is also bad because most of the time the intentions of the person causing the bad feelings for you are good, and it is just misinterpretation due to the nature of on-line things and misunderstandings. As people mentioned before, just forget about it, shake hands and enjoy your stay here.
Posted by leeboy13
On 2009-03-24 18:58:41, shelly58 wrote:
now ive laid myself open which is wrong...i dont do sharing my problems its wrong, im normally stronger than this and keep things to myself
Im going as now i look so weak in front of everyone
to cry is not a sign of weakness, just a sign of caring.....
dont leave
Posted by Ridahz
Stop being keyboard warriors both of you
Forums are only for a bit of banter, everyone has disagreements
Posted by *Jojo*
All is WELL that ends SWELL . . .
We are ALL but of different nationalities, cultures, religions etc here . . . so you just can't help but to have a disagreement with other members here . . . every NOW and THEN 
. . . but as loooong as you can speak or converse in ENGLISH well . . . everything will be OK !