Posted by Miss UK
My Sister got wed September last year to a guy from Bournemouth which she met by accidental text message, they hit it of also gotta add they had been living together 2 years too before they planned on getting wed etc! she moved down to BM and of last year they got married and by a month later they found out they were exspecting there first baby.
Now 3 months after the babys born this sods walked out on her saying he can't cope he's not ready to be a dad and crap like that.
his Mother has drove my sister home with her baby and her belongings and is rushing t protect her son..
what you think of that guys/girls?
it's disgusting my sister is on pills for depression luckily my mother is supporting her atm
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[ This Message was edited by: miss uk on 2007-10-12 22:56 ]
Posted by MWEB
Kids are not something you can ditch when the going gets tough miss UK, I had my first batch at 21 YO, and another issue 24 years later
, Kids are just treated like Washing machines by the youth of today, ie, something to have, because everyone else has one.
Posted by Miss UK
Exactley the thing is my sister is 21 and he's 29.
the guys a tosser and my word of advice for my sister is get on to the Child support and get them to milk him lol
and tbh I wouldn't let him see his kid if it was me but my sisters soft in the head she's even planning on getting a flat down Bournemouth now
Posted by A L 3 X
tbh what an absolute penis......he should have only decided to have the child when he wa good and ready....and then getting his mum to kick her out or w.e......some people just cant take responsibility :S
Posted by Miss UK
He told her he was like his dad he was never ready to settle down,
his Mother sent my sister a video mesage today asking how she was and asking bout the baby the womans demented!
I have never got on with my sis but this has brought us abit closer I wanna rip his head off im dieing to phone him up and give him a piece of my mind but oviousley I can't
I wish my sister would move back to Birmingham now but she insists she loves Bournemouth what can I say
*Sigh*
Posted by se_p800
yeh the guy is a wanker for doing that. He shouldnt have agreed to get married or anything. And btw i went to bournmouth last week wiv the school and its a really cool place
Posted by Miss UK
I think she'd be better off here it would destroy the guy her moving back here btw, he's a twat end off...
I hope she don't go back to him cos it will keep happening !
talk-a-bout Mommys boy lol
Ps, Bournemouths ok bit old for my liking though
Posted by tranced
On 2007-10-13 00:20:37, miss uk wrote:
I have never got on with my sis but this has brought us abit closer I wanna rip his head off im dieing to phone him up and give him a piece of my mind but oviousley I can't
regarding her ex, i wouldnt say he's sane. why a 29 years old man cant decide whether being a dad or not?
@miss: would you help your sister in these moments, ones of the worsts of her life?
Posted by Yoruichi
I wouldnt call a guy like that a man-a man takes responsibility for his actions and takes care of his family. is good that it braught you closer to your sister she will need the help and support just a shame the child will grow up without a father. from the sound of it the child will be better off without him. hope things work out for your sister and her baby.
Posted by jcwhite_uk
What an ar$ehole. I live in the bournemouth area and am 28 so I hope I dont know him.
Bournemouth isnt old btw. On a friday night it far from old.
Posted by Miss UK
My sister told me that cos his mates at work were single then he wanted that back, hes saying he's like his dad not cut out for family life etc..
he is a twat.. I would love it if she came back to Brum to live unfortuanatley she wishes to return back to that Dorset hole sorry lols..
I will show support toward her btw her babys lovely she actually seems happier my sister was saying the hubby was yelling at her infront of the baby
Posted by deluded
That guy's a poor excuse for a man. He should have did some thinking before he went and got married and became a father. At 29 you'd think he'd be able to show a little maturity. If he's not ready to be a dad, why only realise that after he's already become one? It's really irresponsible as it's not just about him anymore! (Sorry, I can't help feeling a little agitated here.) His mum isn't any much better either. Instead of making her son do the right thing, she drove your sister and her baby home and protects her son?
Having said that, I think it may be a good thing for your sis to get away from that family as it is quite apparent that she's not gonna get much help from them even if she were to continue staying there. I'm sorry your sister had to go through this and I wish her and her child all the best in the days ahead.
Posted by Miss UK
Yes his Mother drove her home came into my mothrs house said "Oh a nice big kitchen/garden" then went again w/o answering any questions to my mother or her bf... my mother is furious so is her bf..
I think my sister is better off getting settled here,
what if he decides to get a divorce months down the line he mises his kid and wants custody of her? his mother will jump to that I guess she was always interering
Posted by deluded
What a jerk! I hope your sister will be strong and sort things out. No way should that guy get custody of the child. It'll be good to get evidence that the guy has not been doing his part as the father of the child, and also that your sister is capable of bringing up the child herself in a conducive environment.
Posted by Miss UK
Yep she is strong but I think she'll go running back but can I say or do Nothing really
Posted by afov
She married a guy she met by accidential text message...........
Posted by Miss UK
Yep things get stranger don't they
Posted by deluded
It could have been a wonderful love story. In any case, love is blind, as they say. I wouldn't be surprised if she goes running back to him as you have said, miss uk. There's nothing much you can do to stop her, I guess. Just try to talk some sense into her if you can.
Posted by Miss UK
I will..
Im having a friend round later to try nd talk her round so
lets see how it goes
Posted by deluded
All the best! I really hope things turn out well for your sister, she deserves better than this. Keep us updated yeah?
Posted by Miss UK
Well the latest is the twat wants her back and yes shes running back what can I say
Posted by deluded
Well, you've tried your best, let's just hope they manage to work things out. I hope he's done a good bit of reflection and sorted out his thinking.
Posted by Miss UK
apparentley both of them are in the wrong..
I still would love my sister to move back here though,
her hubbys mother seems to interfere my sister was saying..
her son is a mothers boy I hate them the mothers boy types lmao
Posted by Brightspark
"Now 3 months after the babys born this sods walked out on her saying he can't cope he's not ready to be a dad and crap like that. "
Then he's one sad sorry excuse for a human being. things like getting married and bringing a child into the world are not to be taken lightly, so he should have damn well thought long and hard about his decision to do either of them BEFOREHAND. the way i see it is that he's made his bed now, so he's just going to have to lie in it whether he likes or not.
[ This Message was edited by: Brightspark on 2007-10-19 01:58 ]
Posted by Miss UK
Yep im not happy my sisters soft going back with him,
I was getting used to having a lovely niece nearby and now shes going back to sodding Bournemouth to him
Posted by deluded
Let's just hope they will really be able to work things out together. Maybe this experience will make their bond stronger.
Posted by Miss UK
Maybe but it will mak me hate him still and his mother lol
ive explained this to her already and she's not saying much
Posted by *Jojo*
On 2007-10-12 23:53:00, miss uk wrote:
My Sister got wed September last year to a guy from Bournemouth which she met by accidental text message,
. . . the WONDERS of modern-world-technology, curry
! This is the main reason why I don't BITE with those anonymous SMS and MMS, even if they say that they are: Paris Hilton or Lindsay Lohan look-a-like 
. . .
Posted by deluded
@miss uk, sometimes it's hard to understand why two people in a relationship behave the way they do. Love makes one irrational, as you've probably seen from your sister's behaviour. It may appear that we're in a better position to see things from a more unclouded perspective, but I think we'll just have to stand back and see how things go.
Don't be too worried about your sister for now, perhaps a second chance was what they needed. I agree with you, of course, that the guy and his mother aren't exactly role models for a happy family, and I really do hope they will treat your sister better now that they've decided to live together again.
Posted by Miss UK
I will phone tomorrow and see whats happening with the pair of them lol
Posted by *Jojo*
I guess they should be attending the so-called: marriage-counselling . . . wherein they will be PAIRED with another married couples
Posted by deluded
Haha... Jojo, you sure that's marriage-couselling?
@miss uk, good idea for you to check on your sis, just to see how she's doing. Keep us updated yeah? Hope you're not losing too much sleep over it. Maybe after some time, when the situation has improved, you could pay them a visit on the pretext of visiting your niece.
Posted by Krubach
On 2007-10-12 23:53:00, miss uk wrote:
Now 3 months after the babys born this sods walked out on her saying he can't cope he's not ready to be a dad and crap like that.
The friggin' bastard!!!
He deserves to get beaten the crap out...
Besides dumping your sister, he dumps his own child?!?!?!
Being a father of a 1,5 year kid i just can't accept that.
All i can wish is all the best to your sister and your nephew.
Posted by Miss UK
Well *Sigh*
he came he saw got her back shes off back to him Sunday..
my sister invited me to go and see my niece one lastime this friday
she has told me if he does it again then thats it..
apparentley he came weekend bought alot of stuff for his daughter after he didn't give my sister any money when he left her..
she says "I should bloody well think so too
"
I will stay intouch with my sister but I do not want to be associated with her Husband or his family I hope she can be with me on it too.. cos if he says something like why wont your siter come here or talk to me then he may try and turn her against me
ive got abit closer to my sister since this has happened and I don't want it to be a waste of time "You get me all"
Posted by deluded
I know exactly what you mean. In any case, blood is thicker than water. As long as you've made your stand clear to your sister, I'm pretty sure she'll understand. Let your her know that she can count on you anytime. I think a good, long, heart-to-heart talk would strengthen your bond with her so much more. Keep in touch with her through emails or by phone so that you know how she's doing. At the same time, you might also be able to find out from her if he bad-mouths you.
Posted by Miss UK
I think things might of been very different if my sister had not moved down to live with him and made him move up here,
she's 22 soon still only a kid really and whats he's done is cruel.
he's spoilt mommys boy I think but ive said it loads lol
btw she surprised me by inviting me down to see her tomorrow I will try and talk to her but it seems she's started to fall back to her oh I love him ways and is sticking up for him mother already Oh brother lol
Posted by deluded
Oh well, that's what love does, isn't it? It's better that she loves him than hate him you know? After all, they had a child together, they should try to make things work. I'm not quite sure what's going through his mind, but if he's such a mummy's boy, he can't be all that bad?
It's great to know your sis invited you to visit them, things may be working out after all. I don't know if it's a good idea to try and change her mind though, for the reasons I stated above. I would advise you to just keep an eye on her for now, and if things do take a turn for the worst, then that's when you should step in. It's just my personal opinion of course, but I do hope things go well for you and your sister.
Posted by Miss UK
Well today has gone pear shaped not only is my mother being stupid,
the husbands got the day off and has come down to see them so I say im staying put lol
shame I wont see my niece but still im also glad I don't live within my parent home anymore it's good to be 3 lol
heres a photo of my niece
Posted by deluded
Oh gosh! She's so adorable! Tell your sis I said that! Haha...
Posted by Miss UK
Yeah she's a little cutie..
Im upset shes leaving as I don't know when i'll see her again
I had more pics of her I updated my phone lastnight forgot to remove the memory card and the piccys have gone making me feel upset even more !
I hope my sister sends me more fingers crossed
Posted by deluded
Oh no, that's a shame! Do be careful with your data next time. Well, if you do get more pictures of her, you might wanna post them here. She's a lovely little girl! Don't be too sad about your sister leaving yeah? You can always visit them. Besides, absence makes the heart grow fonder!
Posted by Miss UK
I have managed to contact a few people whom I sent the photo's to and have got 2 back but the ones I took im missing
those was precious!
i'll keep intouch with my sister her husbands treading carefully with my mom atm, however my mom is saying there both to blame..
apparentley my sister liked to keep a tab on her hubby alot,
he couldn't go out see friends so what can I say
she even started it when he collected her the weekend (oh dear)
Posted by deluded
Well, like i said, it'll be best they work things out themselves then. As a guy, I can understand how he dislikes being restricted. And i think I need much more personal space compared to him. But to have done what he did was no doubt irresponsible. Now that they're back together, I think they will be able to work it out. Maybe this experience will strengthen their relationship. Meanwhile, don't worry too much, and maybe with time, you'll dislike him a little less. In any case, don't let your dislike for him stop you from visiting your sister. Have a great day miss uk! It's gonna be a long day for me. Are you working today? All the best at work if you are!
Posted by Miss UK
Thats what we'll do just let them get about themselves lol
Im hoping my sister will come up more if my mother doesn't go about going down there all the time.
it will be along time before I speak to her husband anyway!!!!
Im looking for a job ive been off for months a year now and alots happened I need to hurry up get a job and a flat..
interviews are coming outta my ears atm so hopefully
i'll get in there soon
Posted by deluded
Haha... you've gotta stop your mum from visiting them, that's what you need to do! Haha...
All the best in your job-hunt, miss uk!
Posted by Miss UK
Yup ive had told her to limit her go ups lol...
doubt she will
Got interview on monday for H.Samuals
Posted by deluded
All the best, miss uk!
Posted by Miss UK
Thanks Deluded
Posted by deluded
So, how did it go, miss uk? Hope the interview went smoothly.
Posted by leeboy13
woooo, miss uk, how did the interview go?