Posted by dougproctor
Hi. Many people have PM'd me on here saying nice things about my son who sadly, and unexpectedly, died early Monday morning. Although he was Down's, had all the medical complications you could ever come across, he went when we thought he wouldn't. He had a fine time on Sunday night with us and went to bed happy so that is some consolation.
Now need to get to Thursday next week and the cremation and celibration of his shortish 19 years of life. Tears and laughs hopefully.
Anyway thanks again for your thoughts.
Doug
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Posted by ÈL ® ö B ì Ñ
Aww m8 I can't begin to tell you how sorry I am for your loss.
As you said, he had a good time Sunday night and you can remember that forever.
My thoughts are with you and your family.
Posted by A L 3 X
i've never hear about this before but i hope your son will rest in peace and my condolences are with you and your family
hope you get through this sad time
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Posted by ofiaich
Hi dougproctor,
My sincerest condolensces too...........
Of course, I do not know how you feel because you are you.... and I am me.
But my thoughts are with you and your family,
Ofiaich
Posted by dougproctor
Thank you all. Feel this site is part of my "extended family". Been around a long while!!
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Posted by SE-Naz
Sincerest condolensces to you and your family.
Take Care
Posted by Sammy_boy
My condolences also, I imagine it was quite a shock, I hope you and your family are bearing up well, and that the funeral goes as well as can be expected
Posted by MWEB
Having Three children myself i can only imagine how difficult it must be to lose someone so precious at such a young age, we take so much in life for granted sir, i honestly do wish yourself and your family my heartfelt best wishes at this sad time, I'm sure your son and his memory will live on in your heart and mind and be carried there in peace for the rest of your life.
In all honesty, i have spent many years in mobile forums and this is the first time i ever read a post that made me weep.
Posted by PeterKay
Sincerest condolensces Doug, May Almighty God grant him Peace and make it easy for all your family, amen.
Posted by dougproctor
Thanks, guys, I feel I have real friends here and believe me, it helps. There are loads of people you meet in the street who are going through the same thing, I am sure, but it is so different when it's this close to home. We'll get there but it will take a fair bit of time. Cheers again,
Doug
PS Now about this Nokia tablet I'm selling....... lol
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Posted by gola
I send my sincerest condolences,may The Lord be with you and your family through this hard time.Answers to all your questions will surely come...
Posted by drich290195
My Sympathys are with you, and your family Doug. Just smile at the good times.
Posted by lemmy31
Hey Doug, i dont quite know what to say, hope you and your family are coping ok my man, i would imagine coping is the order of the day.
Take it easy buddy
Craig
Posted by JohnM
Doug, my deepest sympathys are with you and your family at this time with your loss, I can't even start to imagine how it must feel to lose a child. Hold onto your happy memories with your son and the precious moments you shared together. God bless.
Posted by Dogmann
Hi Doug,
As i have already said via Pm i wish you and all your family all the best at this difficult time and although i can't really imagine what you are going through. This is a poem that i have used i the past and hope you find comfort in it.
Do not stand at my grave and weep
I am not there. I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow.
I am the diamond glints on snow.
I am the sunlight on ripened grain.
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you awaken in the morning's hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry;
I am not there. I did not die.
Mary E. Frye
Marc
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Posted by dougproctor
Thanks, Marc, that's nice. You lot have given me a lot of comfort tonight. I feel amongst friends, although I have never met you.
Doug
Posted by Coxy
Doug
As I too have already said via PM I wish you and your family all the very best at what must be an extremely difficult time. I hope good things come to you and that your luck turns.
As you said you had a good night on Sunday and I imagine that is something you can/will remember and keep with you for many many years to come.
Again, all the best and my sincerest condolences to you.
Posted by dougproctor
Thanks again, this will not be forgotton.
Doug
Posted by abbafan1972
Have only just seen this thread.
My thoughts are with you and your family at this difficult time. I'm sure you have some wonderful memories that you'll treasure always.
I know what you mean Doug about this forum and a lot of others too, there is always something that will make me smile even when things are down.
Posted by Luke-the-magic-man
I would like to say something which would be meaningfull and help you, but I dbout I could. Good luck with everything, and although it never gets easier be strong and I hope your son can rest in peace.
Posted by dougproctor
Thanks guys and gals, time for bed.
You're a great bunch, goodnight.
Doug
Posted by rule_breaker
It's 2 am I was already sad enough not to get any sleep and then read this thread. it made it worst.
I thought losing your parents was the saddest part our life but losing your child.. this has to be a lot more painful but I hope you have a lot of good memories of him that can keep him alive in your thoughts forever.
I hope you and your family get through these difficult times
Posted by ÈL ® ö B ì Ñ
On 2007-09-05 22:51:11, Dogmann wrote:
Hi Doug,
As i have already said via Pm i wish you and all your family all the best at this difficult time and although i can't really imagine what you are going through. This is a poem that i have used i the past and hope you find comfort in it.
Do not stand at my grave and weep
I am not there. I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow.
I am the diamond glints on snow.
I am the sunlight on ripened grain.
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you awaken in the morning's hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry;
I am not there. I did not die.
Mary E. Frye
Marc
When I had some friends who were killed last year in a car crash, this poem was read at 1 of their funerals...it's a stunning and beautiful poem.
Posted by alexho
Sincerest condolensces to you and your family, Doug!
Posted by *Jojo*
@doug - My deepest condolences here mate ! My HIS soul finally REST in PEACE !
Posted by deluded
@dougproctor, my deepest condolences, I can only offer words of consolation. You will have to be strong and pull yourself, as well as your loved ones, through this together.
@Dogmann, that is a really beautiful poem, and I hope it offers some comfort to dougproctor.
Posted by chili
Doug your son had a good father to be there for him all his life (though it was short) and that made him luckier than many many others...
Posted by dougproctor
It's now the morning and just read the latest messages from around the world. What a strange world this is. Thanks to you all, I am among real friends.
Doug
Posted by slattery69
so sorry to hear about your loss i cant imagine what your going through, i have a young daughter myself and the thought of losing her is frightening. i hope you and your family can fine some peace and carry on.
my heart and sympathy goes out to you and your family at this terrible time
Posted by dougproctor
Thank you very much for those kind words. Never delay doing anything you meant to do with kids, it can catch you out, as we are finding. He had a good life though, short as it was.
Doug
Posted by mosdelln
Doug......My deepest condolences for you and your family
Hope your son has a happy send off and hope you remember....
Very sorry
Posted by >500
was meaning to send you a pm the other day, did not get a chance...
Sincerest condolences to you and your family. i cant imagine how hard it must be to lose a child, especially one so young. almost the same age as me.
may he lay in peace. Know he will be looking down on you and your family and guide you through times like these and also be with you in times of happinness.
Funerals are always a hard ask, but the occassions which take place after the ceremony are always filled with laughter and remembering the good times you spent with your lost companion. Tis a good thing the last memory you have of him was a happy one.... all the best matey.
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Posted by dougproctor
Thanks again to both of you. You lot have really helped both myself and family in the past few days. I will print this thread and PM's out and put them away for future reading when we feel a little better.
Regards
Doug
Posted by Miss UK
Doug im very sorry to hear of your tragic loss,
My condolenses goes out to you and your family!
Posted by joebmc
My deepest condolences for you and your family, may your son’s gentle spirit live on in yours and your family’s hearts forever. I can only imagine the heart ache felt by his lose.
Give him a good send off!
Posted by dougproctor
Thanks again to you both. Lovely words and will be remembered. He is going off to a colourful scene of no black, just orange, red and green and lots of released balloons around the world, counties including Australia, Bruni, Spain, Italy and the USA.
Doug
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Posted by dougproctor
Hi again,
Well, the celebration of my son's life was this afternoon and what a time it was! Not a black suit in sight, the chief coffin carrier in a "Oh No Dad" waistcoat. So much laughter, so many colours and loads of balloons released.
Although my son was just over 19, being special needs, he ranged in age from about 5 to 19, hence the balloons, which he loved.
Thank you again for all those lovely words you posted a week or so ago, I needed those and you did me proud.
Regards
Doug
Posted by ÈL ® ö B ì Ñ
Brilliant to hear that it was a celebration of his life m8, when my friends were killed their family done the same, they wanted people to wear casual clothes and celebrate the lifes of those lost rather then mourning them.
You have many happy memories of which you can keep forever, remember the good times m8!
Posted by procterdc
Yea I'm glad to hear you celebrated his life too. I'm sure there'll be many moments you'll always treasure.
Best Wishes
Dan
Posted by dougproctor
Thank you, we have plenty of memories.
Doug
Posted by strizlow800
@doug: Sincerest condolensces mate... I'm so sorry about this... Sometimes the life can be so hard that you lose the desire to continue
. But you have to smile to the bright side. Everything will pass...
Posted by dougproctor
Thank you, some lovely words.
Doug
Posted by batesie
On 2007-09-05 21:15:59, dougproctor wrote:
He had a fine time on Sunday night with us and went to bed happy so that is some consolation.
and this is how you will always remember him, and how he would want to be remembered
at 11am, i'm going outside to have a 1 minute silence in memory of your son.
Posted by Ridahz
Hi Doug.
Im glad to hear it was a nice send off. You have some good memories and thats what its all about at the end of the day...
Posted by tranced
Hi
I know it's been days since this happened, but i wanted to let you know that i almost know how you feel. I haven't lost a son cuz i'm not a father, but i'm a son who lost his mother. This is a harder time i know, but time will reward you somehow. Be strong and you son will be proud of you and yours. Sorry for this, Doug.
Posted by dougproctor
Thanks, again, for those really lovely words. We have lots of memories and hundreds of pictures so something to look at in years to come.
You are all good folks on here,
Doug
Posted by Kwiksta
Very sorry to hear such unfortunate news, but my sincerest condolences go out to both you and your family
Take Care
Posted by EastCoastStar
im really sorry about that. i know that has to be really hard to deal with. i send my best.
Posted by strizlow800
Hey doug mate. Last night me and a friend of mine (mainly I)
drank a glass of red wine in memoriam of your son and condolence... God, let him rest in peace...
Posted by Alexandra
Very sorry to hear about this tragic moment, my heart goes out to you.