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Posted by EastCoastStar
how should i throw my life away??

right now i have too many problems...

first... girlfriend problems... shes hanging out with her ef boyfriend (we have been together 2 years), and he is smoking weed.. and naturally i think she is, and they are doing stuff... she says nothing is happening, but thats what girls always say... (i dont like the weed thing)

second... my job sucks, i do a shit load of work, all day long. i get paid crap, and they cant "afford" to give me a raise... all my money i am using for my phone, and to pay my car insurance.

third, my car sucks, most of the time it doesnt run, its really messed up. right now, i have used velcro, zip-ties and alot of JB Weld to hold alot of things together to keep it working... it breaks down all the time... but its the only thing i have.

fourth, i cant get a better job, becuase everything else around here is CRAP, and it wont do me any good, and my car wont go far enough to take me anywhere else.

fifth, no money. i steal internet from my neighbors even.

theres alot more, but i dont want to stay on the computer, so im going to go for a walk. and no im not saying all this so people feel bad for me and crap, i just dont know what to even do anymore. maybe its best to just throw it all away.


EDIT: Every day, i am going to post in here, and keep you all updated on the way things are going. kind of like a blog, just to keep you all informed. ALSO, i will be selling alot of stuff very soon, so keep a look out (even though alot of u are in europe, still keep an eye out) thankssss

[ This Message was edited by: eastcoaststar on 2006-04-21 02:29 ]


Posted by solidsingh
calm down lad, keep your eye out for another job and sell your car, catch a bus to work until you can afford to replace it


Posted by fatreg
it could be worse ECS, it could be worse,

just think of that

at least you have a car, a phone, a job, a gf.

your life would be 10x worse without all them,

as for the weed thing as they say, if you cant beat em, join em!

although im dead agaisnt drugs, so maybe a no to that one!

fatreg

Posted by *Jojo*
@ecs - When everything ELSE fails . . . there's the movie - Da Vinci Code to watch on ! Seriously, I 'almost' had this kind of dilemma before . . . until one day, roughly 3.5 years ago . . . I tried betting on the LOTTERY, from then, my LIFE changed a 'bit' . . . better . . . I suddenly saw relatives too which I haven't seen for decades in my life !

Posted by govigov
I will complete my first year on april 23rd, i started of with a k500, then a P800.. so far so good, thenm a samsung, and now finally my trust old T230. I am not in good contact with my GF, since we are 600kms apart, and i frankly thing the relationship is gone for a toss, i used to have a scooter, now i dont even have that, and i have got 600 bucks in my pockets, (thats like close to 8 or 9 pounds) to finish of the month.

now ur life should be better.


@ECS, stop reading here...

@rest, now i am kinda going out with a nice lady, i am taking delivery of a new motorbike on saturday, (thats where the money went). and i will be getting my first ever credit card in the next 2 weeks, (looking forward to buying a new phone on installments) |||| YIPEE ! ! ! ||||

Posted by axxxr
Woh Woh....calm down ECS...Firstly your much better than that,If your g/f is cheating on you,forget about her and move on...you deserve someone you appreciates you for who you really are,and believe they are plenty of girls out their who respect you a lot more..forget her she ain't worth the time or the bother,lifes too short.

In regards to your job....stick with it for now but look for something else at the same time,Have you tried working for yourself to generate more money?PM me and i'll explain how to start your own business,you may never have to work again.

Don't worry about your car too much,..think about the people who don't even have a bike and take the bus...be thankfull for what you have rather for what you don't!..With some work and believing in yourself you can achieve everything in life...including a new car!

You don't need your car to venture further out to look for a better job...use public transport for a while until you earn enough to buy a new set of wheels..in the end you will have to struggle a bit to achieve your goals.

Mate you will have to start believing in yourself a lot more....giving up is not the way,We all go through problems and i myself have been through a lot over the last year or so...but i never gave up,and now i;ve gone through the worst of it and im fine...Its life my friend...just learn to fight it!..I know you will be just fine!

Posted by solidsingh
i think you should read a book called "rich dad , poor dad" its excellent and could help with financial problems

Posted by Sammy_boy
I'd probably echo what Axxxr said here. Have a good talk with your girlfriend, if she's not willing to compromise, or take your views on board it may be better for you to let her go, no matter how much it hurts, and find another girl who will respect you and your opinions better.

It's also surprising how quickly things turn around. In the space of about 8 months I've gone from a struggling student nurse, close to failing his last placement to a staff nurse, having a house of his own (well, our own with the wife!), and having just gotten married to the girl I love. I've still got my 6-year old Vauxhall Corsa with no hubcaps (and I think it's sprung a leak somewhere and the driver's leccy window is misbehaving), which won't be replaced soon, but that is not a problem!

Things WILL turn round for you, it may seem bleak at the mo but things have a habit of turning round when you least expect it. Hang tight, and don't do anything rash.

Posted by BobaFett
@ecs imo i dare to say in the name of the other members here, that we are always here for u, if it is. next to us, there are meny us members here aswell, i would to contact them according job and car problems, u never know, who could help u in that case. imo in the first line u should concentrate and focus on those problems, what u can manage on your own, u are now the most important person in your life ( gfriend story etc isnt "that important" ), if u can reach any small success step by step, it will force u to go on and gives more selfpower in the hard times.

dont be afraid. fear leads to anger, anger leades hate, hate leads to suffer... so dont be afraid, dare to ask for help and support if it is, u might feel yorself lonely now, but u arent ALONE!

Posted by EastCoastStar
@all thank you for your help, and you are all right, i really shouldnt give up, things could be alot worse. as for the references about public transportation, it is alot harder in the states to get form one place to another with public transportation. The busses dont go where i need to at all.
but if i had no phone and all... it would be worse.
and if i sold my car... i would have no transportation.

you all really are helping me, alot more than you know, and @axxxr, i will be PMing you also

heres my idea for right now... everyone tell me what you think...
i think i am going to go trade in my car, for a newer car (one that i really want) and use the car i have now to use as a down payment for the car i want, then make monthly payments on the car. Work the job i have for a little bit, until i find one that pays more, becuase i will have a new car, i will be able to look for another job more. I will have to watch allll of my money to the very cent, but i can probobly make it happen. it would be a tough thing to do with paying and all, but i could probobly scrape by. and as for the girlfriend situation... i know she loves me, but i am going to have a serious talk with her, and eather make things better, or end it for good.

@all, thank you again. very much, i know we all have problems, but mine are just all building up, and idk what to do. thanks again.

Posted by SCORPIONKING1982
Hey ECS take a step back and chill mate, things could be worse.

1. Tell her how you feel, if she wont compromise at least then she aint worth it. Are there any actual signs she's smokin and messing around with this guy? Maybe you two need a break, might do you good.

2. Dont ask for a pay rise, DEMAND one. Tell them your going to leave if you dont get it and im sure they'll do something for you rather than lose you.

3. Insurance is a rip but it will go down giving you more free cash to save for a better car.

4. If theres really no other jobs around then maybe consider moving? Im not sure how old you are so not sure if this is an option. I moved to the other end of the UK to start my current job and its been a real adventure and made me a better person. Dont feel trapped by your home town theres a whole world out there just waiting for you.

5. Points 2, 3 and 4 will help that. even the best of us steal anyway


Dont let things get you down, life is never straight forward and for every down theres an up waiting to happen. In the last 3 weeks my grandfather has died and my gf of 3years has left me but im still here and loving life.

Look at every problem as a challenge and an adventure.


EDIT : PS just read your plan and that sounds perfect mate. With the right finance deal new cars can work out pretty cheaply, just make sure you bargain with them and get a good finance APR, NEVER accept their first offer good luck mate!

with regards to watching your money make up a excel spreadsheet charting all your money coming in and going out. work out exactly what you can afford then stick to it. maybe save a little to treat yourself now and then!

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[ This Message was edited by: SCORPIONKING1982 on 2006-04-21 01:40 ]

Posted by EastCoastStar
@SCORPIONKING, you know, i never condsidered moving. i will be 20 in june, so i could do it. i would have to probobly get a room mate to help me, but i really think i could do it. i might talk to a few people and see what i can do.
im glad everything with you is going good now...
i am going to look at everything as an adventure and a challange... hopefully it will give me a new outlook on things. thanks!

Posted by *Jojo*
@ecs - As what my MOM always told me . . . "if you THINK you have a Mega Byte problem, there is still some peeps who have a Giga Byte problems, or WORST than what you always have at present" . . .

About your Babe, look for another one as the ration is 4:1 (boys:girls) and that statistics was done in the Cro-magnon era ! Don'ty waste your precious time with TRAMP ladies like that ! I know the FEEL as I was involved with a beauty queen before (shared her HEART with 6 of us) !

Now, if everything ELSE fails . . . try the ROPE (tied on the ceiling) dude just kidding here . . . Good Luck!

Can ypu now PM to me your pic with your GF (long over due promise of yours) . . . sio I can JUDGE for myself if she's WORTH it . . .

Posted by SCORPIONKING1982
Hey ECS i moved out when I was 17 dude! It was hard but I now firmly believe that its the best thing I've ever done. It makes you so independant! if you want to talk about the whole moving thing drop me a PM.

Posted by EastCoastStar
@jn, she was with 6 people?!?!? crazy!!
i will PM you the only pic i have right now (it will take me a minute).

@SCORPIONKING PM

[ This Message was edited by: eastcoaststar on 2006-04-21 01:44 ]

Posted by *Jojo*
Quote:

On 2006-04-21 02:43:24, SCORPIONKING1982 wrote:
Hey ECS i moved out when I was 17 dude! It was hard but I now firmly believe that its the best thing I've ever done. It makes you so independant! if you want to talk about the whole moving thing drop me a PM.




@scorpion - Whaaat 17 years old :eek I am already 37 and I am still living with my parents . . . just waiting for my parents to . . . . so I can own the ESTATE That's LIFE in the US, once you've reached the age of 17 and 18 . . . your on your own ! That's why I have 2 lucky cousins in CA, who is only aged 18 (female) and 20 (male) . . . my Uncle gave them both Bimmers as their DEBUT gifts . . a 325 for the male and a 323 for the female . . . lucky guys huh . . . . don't have to work hard for those cars !

Posted by SCORPIONKING1982
Hey JN im in the UK mate

I moved away on my own with no help from my family, ive done it all off my own back and im proud of it!

Posted by *Jojo*
@scorpion - I thought you live in the US mate That's GOOD, you worked hard for the money . . . Congrats!

Posted by SCORPIONKING1982
nope im the good old uk mate lol

thanks dude, hope you get that estate soon too

Posted by EastCoastStar
not too many people on here love in the US. maybe i would be better off in the uk

thank you all again for your help, it is really helping me alot.

Posted by *Jojo*
Quote:

On 2006-04-21 03:29:29, SCORPIONKING1982 wrote:
nope im the good old uk mate lol
hope you get that estate soon too




@scorpion - Nah, I hope just in another 10-15 years . . . not yet prepared to be left - Home Alone !

@ecs - All the BEST for you dude . . . just come to Esato and make THREADS similar to this one !

Posted by EastCoastStar
4/21/06 or 21/4/06

Its only 11:30am here, and it has been a long day. Nothing going on, I am at work, working by butt off, and i decided to just stop and take a break becuase i dont get paid enough to do everything, so i decided to get on esato. last night my girlfriend was okay with me, then all of a sudden today, she seems to be getting an attitude with me again. who knows why.
i also got paid today, so i need to go cash my check, and go pay my insurance and hopefully i will have some leftover money!

will update the rest of the day later.

Posted by methylated_spirit
Dude we all got our crosses to bear, i've been seeing a woman 10 years older than me for the last 3 weeks, and now she's 5 days late. I feel for ya, i really do, sometimes life can just get you down.

Posted by jenbones
@ECS

Women, the worlds biggest puzzle! I just can't figure them out, your life seems to be improving just from your posting, although there is a lack of info as you can't put your whole day into a post, but just from the 2/3 paragraphs you write, you seem to be...happier i suppose the word is and i'm glad for you!

Me havin' problems with a girl too atm, she says she likes me, then next day goes to her ex, then he finishes her cause he's a player (:P) and what ya know...she's on her knees for me cause i helped her out when she was in peices (So that's not much of a problem for me really now )

Some things are best left alone, i suggest you stop worrying about the girl and concentrate on other important things in your life...

Hope this helps, i'm no relationship/life expert, far from it, but at least i tryed

Good Lucks mate,

Ben

Posted by Kwiksta
Hey ECS!!!

Sorry to hear about your situation, and to me the only thing that you can really resort to is....(and this may seem a bit radical to most of you) RELIGION...

"A Muslim - holds strongly to Islamic principles, but yet is adaptable to change when applying them in response to contemporary issues and challenges.

A Muslim - is morally and spiritually strengthened to face the challenges of modern society..."

http://talkislam.com/
http://www.islamonline.net/english/introducingislam/index.shtml


Posted by EastCoastStar
thanks guys

the girl situation is really the last of my problems. I mean, yea, it bugs me and bothers me, but it wont ruin my life. if i dont get everything else figured out, it could mess me up pretty good.

but i didnt put my whole day into the post because the day isnt over yet.


Posted by EastCoastStar
4/21/06 or 21/4/06

well the rest of the day was... interesting.
i had a HORRIABLE lunch. i went out, and it was just very hectic. anyway, work was very busy today. but thanks to a few of you, i took a little time off just to PM a few of you , anyway, after work i went to see my girlfriend, she was all happy, then i talked about what happened. she got all pissed, i moved and sat across the room and about an hour later she came over and apologized and all that crap, then me, her, and a few others went bowling. that was it, no progress towards my goals yet. but i am waking up early tomorrow to go look at vehicles! not planning on buying yet, but just getting some ideas!

Posted by Debu
@Ecs: dude, you have no idea, how good you have it. Atleast your family supports you. When I moved out of home (i was 18 then), my dad told me to go to college or he would cut me off; I refused; I worked a dead job for 2 years , I didn't have any car, public transport kept me mobile. Now, i've finished my college and am working in a software development firm (in which I am a partner, we take outsourced jobs from the us/uk). I have a comfortable income, and my girl stood by me for all of it.

Life has ups and downs. Deal with it, its the only way to fly.

Posted by EastCoastStar
my family supports me????
how does my family support me? i buy all my own food, clothes, and i have to pay my mom rent, or she will kick me out. i oay for EVERYTHING. they dont support me at all.

Posted by EastCoastStar
most of you dont care, but heres my day
4/22/06 or 22/4/06
i woke up late, (about 10:30), and my girlfriend wanted help cleaning her car, because she is selling hers also to get something else. then after that, i finally went to look at cars. i saw a few i liked at one place, but they wanted a bigger down payment than i was expecting. i wanted to just trade in the car i had now as a down payment. so i eather need to look alot more, or figure out how to make a good bit of money.

later, my girlfriend wanted to go to this play that one of her friends are in... i didnt want to do, not at all. i went anyway, 15 bucks per person. luckly i got in for free haha. it wasnt quite as bad as i expected it to be. the power went out for a few minutes, so it was pretty funny.

anyway, another day, another step closer to what i need to do.

Posted by REO
@ECS

Do you have MSN Messenger? We need to do lunch sometime, let me know.

Posted by SCORPIONKING1982
ecs dont be put off by the down payment thing, shop around a bit more youll find someone who will help.

either that or try the classic, the other guys offered me this what can you do for me trick. just tell them the other dealer said he'd accept your car as down payment so if they wont accept the same youll go back there and buy one of their cars. youd be amazed how suddenly they want to do business. dont be put off by rejections though, not every dealer will play ball. scope out the salesman, try speaking to someone who looks a bit of a soft touch, maybe a younger guy rather than a seasoned pro.

Posted by EastCoastStar
4/24/06 or 24/4/06

well today, i didnt make much progress towards anything. i didnt take a lunch at work, so i got paid for it, and didnt have to pay for anything.

on the down side, my frickin girlfriend is fighting with me again. im so frickin frustrated, and i didnt do a single damn thing wrong.
my dad is talking crap to me too, but im not goingn to get into that.

ugh xyrfcgvuhbjnbhvjfhc im going to go now, look for stuff to sell on ebay.

and im sorry, but if you guys are going to reply right now saying "oh shut up" and crap, please dont. im seriously not in the mood.

Posted by *Jojo*
@ecs - For everything else there's the . . . LOTTERY ! Good Luck !

Posted by EastCoastStar
now shes being all nice to me. idk what to do. i think i imght just move. but then ill miss her. idk.

the lottery, implayin! with my spare change, but implaying. i wont do little scratch offs anymore. i play the big lotto!

Posted by *Jojo*
@ecs - Good luck dude ! Just don't forget us if you win . . . ok

Posted by EastCoastStar
oh i wont!!!!

theres a few special ones of you that i would buy stuff for a select few would get a new mobile of their choice, and maybe a few extra bucks!

i wont get my hopes up though hahaha.

Posted by EastCoastStar
for those of you following along,
4/25/06 or 25/4/06
today was a busy busy day at work. from the second i walked in, for about 5 hours i didnt stop even for a drink. and it was odd and end stuff. not my normal weird work crap. i didnt even have lunch today. i had to take a work truck to get fixed today becuase it was squeaking alot, and the belt was bad, and the AC went out... and as i was pulling out of the gas station (petrol station) the ball joint in the truck i was driving snapped in the front right area. it was crazy, i was going slow thank god.

and the girlfriend thing... shes happy with me once again, but shes going to hang out with her ex again soon. im just gonna ignore it, and slowly let myself back away from her, since i know its starting to head towards a dead end anyway, so i better make it a slow down to a stop, rather than hitting the stop full force, ya know?

and no progress towards my goals... exept looked at house prices in other states...i think im moving

Posted by methylated_spirit
Where do you fancy moving dude? I've got a spare room if you want, £5 a week to cover the hot water, and don't eat all my Frosties! Deal? hehe

Glad you're taking some positive action, its hard to shake everything up all at once - just remember, don't take every opportunity just because its there, look before you leap.

Posted by Sammy_boy
If you're thinking of finishing with her, I would suggest a clean break, sit her down, state your concerns and that you're thinking of breaking up with her. This shock could force her into revealing her feelings - it could be she loves you, doesn't want to break up with you etc., or she could reveal she's been thinking the same way.

This way, also you can get on with your life, it may be hard to do it this way, but it will be better for you in the long term, especially if you've already made your mind up you're breaking up with her.

Posted by EastCoastStar
@ meths that would be cool! hahaha.
i have considered moving over that way... hahaha

@Sammy_boy, in not really sure thats what i want to do yet though, ya know? 2 years is a long time to be with someone, and just end it. i have to think things through with it and see what i really want to do.



Posted by EastCoastStar
4/29/06 or 29/4/06

this one is going to be short and simple.
no time to make progresss, but i made a few extra bucks. i got 3 and a half hours of overtime at work on friday, and today i pulled a trailer for someone and made an extra $200, so im workign my way up slowly.

on a side note, me and my girlfriend had a great day today (didnt do much, i pulled her house in trailer for her [ she rides horses ] and her mom payed me today becuase they cant do it), anyway, i was leaving her house around midnight, and her ex boyfriend called, and said (to her) "hey, what are you doing?" she said "nothin sitting at home" he said "oh, is tony there?" (thats my name), and she said "yea" and he said "okay nevermind, bye", so im really more starting to think something is going on...

damn

Posted by *Jojo*
@ecs - Nice progress , yeah ! But I guess you did not bother charging your GF's mom for the PULL, as that will be BONUS points for you to her baby . . . about the converstaion, YES! that's nice, because you are there, what if you are not maybe that's what you'll also be gettin' if you are the one on the other end pal . . . think about it !

Posted by EastCoastStar
@JN, thats what i was thinking, she could easily be going behing my back with this guy. i would never know.

about the money, they have me the money, i gave it back, they gave it back, and i snuck it back in her camera bag later, and somehow they got it in my back pants pocket lol. they said they know i need it, just keep it in my savings.

im so lost.

Posted by EastCoastStar
4/30/06 or 30/4/06
i made a few extra bucks tonight. i went to the fair, and alot of places needed help breaking down the rides and all - so all total i made $150. not too bad. its starting to get me there, very little by little, but im getting there!

Posted by kiwifly
a private diary? can i have a look?

life always sucks. but if you suck more it, it wont suck. hoo!

Posted by EastCoastStar
go ahead! read away! its not that great of a story haha, but im hopig it turns out to be great!

Posted by EastCoastStar
5/16/06 or 16/5/06
i havent been updating, because there isnt much to update about.
i have been buying and selling alotg of stuff, and installing things in cars, and all for people, making a few extra bucks.

as for the gf... the past week or 2 have been great until yesturday she got a bitchy attitude for who knows what reason, and it hasnt stopped yet. something with her ex is going on i think...
it might be time for the break up, idk

Posted by mrao
ecs, all that i can say is that it cant get any worse..only better going forward..look at it that way

Posted by *Jojo*
I've made some suggestions to ECS as to what to do . . . he picked on my no.1 advise . . . and got him to win - US$55.00 ! Now, tell me if I can't predict the FATES of you LIVES here mates


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