Posted by EastCoastStar
heyy. okay me and my girlfriend were dating for 13 months...broke up for 4...and saw other people. now were back together and we don't know how to count it. do we start back at 1 month???? or go on to the 14th month? we talked and didn't know what to do, so im asking you all
so, what do you all think?? ask questions if you want. thanksssss
p.s. i know most of u hate these kind of threads... so...sorrrrry...just need opinions
[ This Message was edited by: EastCoastStar on 2005-11-29 03:25 ]
Posted by amnesia
well you'd be starting fresh, if you just continued, you'd be contuing where the problem and bad feelings left off.
On a plus side! WATCH the MARIO VIDEO
Posted by EastCoastStar
true. thxx for ur thoughts.
p.s. check ur mario thread
Posted by amnesia
what should I see?
Posted by gelfen
four months is probably too long to count it as one stint anyway, especially since you both saw other people. you could always say "we've been together on and off for x months/years".
Posted by Dj Boyi
U both had a 4 month tea break. There will prolly be more tea breaks too,so enjoy ur tea,i bet ur gf did/will ;-)
Posted by methylated_spirit
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Posted by carkitter
I'd say it's the 14th month, or do as Gelfen says "on and off for x months/years".
Posted by SCORPIONKING1982
I'm in the same situation with my lady, we've broken up a couple of times, the longest being 3 months out of the 3 years I've known her.
We both still say we've been together for 3 years though.
Posted by max_wedge
agree. After all, it's just a break really. If you are at work all day you tell everyone it's an 8 hour day, even if you don't get paid for lunch and it's only a seven hour workday.
Unless the time you are on a break for is equal to the previous total time you have had together, then you count it inclusive. If the total time you have been together is less than the length of the break period when you get back together, then you would say "together on and off". If there is more than a year between this time and the last time you were together, then you start counting from scratch.
Just MHO
Posted by *Jojo*
@ecs - Whaaaaaaaaaaat
'DATING' for more than a YEAR Ya mean - 'courting' ? That's too looooong pal, longer than the queue lines during the Black Friday Sale mate ! Yup, I guess you'll START anew herel, the 13 months should not be recorded . . . but if EVER, those are precious time JUST put into WASTE 
Next time or this time, make sure that everything goes - smoothly, IRON things out when settling your personal differences OK?
Posted by EastCoastStar
thank you all for your input and thoughts! ill let my girlfriend read them and help us decide
@JN, haha yea, ALOT longer than the lines during black friday
. those lines were long and boring though haha.
its been a great 13 months with her... but there was fighting... now that were back together... everythings going to work out great, i nkow it
thanks again all!
Posted by gelfen
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On 2005-11-29 11:47:27, carkitter wrote: |
or maybe "18months, including a four month sabattical"
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i have to say i disagree with this. the 4 month break amounts to almost a third of the time you were together, so it's not really continuous. using that analogy, you don't say "i worked an 8 hour day" when you were only there for five and three-quarter hours. even forgetting it was a substantial period of time, the fact you both saw other people means it wasn't continuous IMHO.
anyhoo, however you choose to mark the time doesn't amount to a hill of beans. the important point is you are together now, and as long as you're both happy that's all that really matters.
Posted by max_wedge
fair enough gelfin
I was trying to be facetiously over-serious about it, I don't particularly care myself. As far as I'm concerned how important is it how long I've been together with someone? Not very. It's how much I enjoy being with them (and vice versa) that counts.
I agree my work analogy wasn't that accurate. What about if you had a separation in your marriage for a year but get back together, would your 25th anniversary actually be a 24th anniversary?
I think if two peeps have tried to move on from eachother but find themselves back together then it could be a sign that they never really stopped thinking about eachother in the first place.
Or it could be a sign that they miss having a guaranteed root
Posted by EastCoastStar
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hahaha
you got it right the first time
and @gelfen, you are right, the time doesnt really matter. we were just thinking about it. we are both happy, thats what counts
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[ This Message was edited by: EastCoastStar on 2005-11-30 15:23 ]